Relationship between husband-wife is not always nice. Sometimes there are problems come within. Despite the problem and obstacle that envelop the relationship, it is still known that the relation between husband-wife in marriage is the greatest union.
Our Prophet (peace and blessing of Allah be upon him) once mentioned that there’s no other better structure in life than marriage.
Holy Quran also has stated that everyone, man and woman were destined to live the life with the partner of their own.
وَمِنْ آيَاتِهِ أَنْ خَلَقَ لَكُمْ مِنْ أَنْفُسِكُمْ أَزْوَاجًا …
“And among His signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves…” (Quran, 30:21).
However, both man and woman as husband and wife in a marriage have certain kind of duties to do to satisfy each other. This time, we will discuss the duties of woman as a wife towards his husband. Therefore, we are going to find out 15 ways on how to give pleasure to husband.
Giving pleasure to husband actually is not always regarding to sexual intimacy. Besides of that, women as wives can also give pleasure to husbands through their habits, sayings, and also appreciation.
- Give Your Appreciation
Giving Appreciation is one thing you can do to give pleasure to husband. Giving appreciation is the way you show your love to each other. You can start expressing your gratitude of his presence, or say another simple thing. You can take care of his feelings by telling something that can make him proud of having each other.
Allah loves those who show gratitude and appreciation to them. Grateful and appreciative are the most admirable characteristic of human that will be rewarded more of Allah mercy as stated in the ayah below.
وَإِذْ تَأَذَّنَ رَبُّكُمْ لَئِنْ شَكَرْتُمْ لَأَزِيدَنَّكُمْ وَلَئِنْ كَفَرْتُمْ إِنَّ عَذَابِي لَشَدِيدٌ
“And when your Lord made it known: If you are grateful would certainly give to you more, and if you are ungrateful, My chastisement is fully severe” (Quran, 14:7)
Just like Allah, every human kind also loves those who show much gratitude and appreciation. Is it easy to show appreciation to other people, especially those we love, isn’t? Therefore, start giving your appreciation to your husband to give them pleasure.
2. Show Your Affection
Showing affection is very needed as it grows your relationship stronger. Showing affection is good when it comes naturally.
Some kind of things to do to show your affection to husband can be done through physical interaction, loving words, or even compliments and gift. If your husband loves physical interaction, you can show your affection through hugs and kisses.
Telling him that you love him passionately can also be another way of showing your affection. Besides that, you can give him compliments or gift sometimes, depends on the occasion like during anniversary or birthday.
3. Stay Loving During Sexual Breaks
Sometimes, during your sexual breaks like when you are having period, after the child birth, or during ramadhan, you can keep staying loving to your husband. Both of you can still enjoy flirting, hugging, cuddling and kissing, since it is still allowed in Islam.
Stay loving may grow your relationship stronger even you are not having more sexual intercourse. The intimacy will help each other getting comfort.
4. Bless Your Husband
Another way to give pleasure to husband is by blessing him. You can start blessing him with salaam everytime you greet each other. The greeting can also be such a blessing to your husband. You can also get mercy from Allah since Allah loves those who bless others.
5. Dress Properly
The way you dress can also give pleasure to your husband. You can start by wearing Islamic dress to please Allah. The modesty, elegance, and also cleanliness will also please your husband. But don’t forget to wear outfits that suit you best.
There’s no oppression, there’s only what comforts you. When you look comfortable, happy, and good looking at the same time, your husband will also be pleased and happy. He will get pleasure only by seeing you. That’s why you can start dressing properly.
6. Have fun with each other
Having fun with each other is the best way to give pleasure to your husband. You can start doing new things, exploring new places, going through some emotional stages, etc. You can do anything exciting at home or outside. Plan some getaways or vacations together, or even cook each other favorite foods together. It will keep you close to each other.
7. Have a pleasant attitude
Being wife with pleasant attitude is really needed since it will help each other facing hardship. Those with unpleasant attitude can turn the whole house into such a hell with the bad temper and ill-nature.
Our Prophet (peace and blessing of Allah be upon him) once stated that a person with a bad disposition and attitude would be in permanent agony and suffering. It means that when we are having bad disposition and attitude, it will affect our behavior and relationship.
Bad disposition and attitude will harm and offend each other. Therefore, it is very needed to have a pleasant attitude as wife.
8. Respect your husband
Another way on how to give pleasure to your husband is by respecting them. Respecting husband doesn’t make you inferior. It is another form of encouraging each other to be a better person.
You can show your respect by listening to his stories and complaints, and giving him advises. Respecting husband for wife is a good deed to do as Imam as-Sadiq (a.s.) stated: ‘
A woman who respects her husband and does not harass him, will be fortunate and prosperous’.”
9. Pray for your husband
Pray for your husband for the sake of his pleasure, happiness, and excitement. By praying for your husband, you are always in the hope of mercy blessing him. Allah love those who pray to him, he will show his kindness and mercy.
It is not wrong to hope to Allah for the best of your husband. Believe it, even though it is unseen, your husband well being, prosperity, and other good things will come approaching him.
10. Provide him good meals
Providing good meals will give your husband pleasure. Even though it is only foods, it can make you look more charming if you can cook the best meal to him. He will love what he eats and crave more of it. He will like staying home so often and be glad of your existence. So start providing your husband good meals to eat. [AdSense-C]
- Make a good appearance
- Talk with manners
- Communicate pain and grieves
- Don’t expect too much
- Be grateful of your husband
That’s all 15 easy ways on how to give pleasure to husband in Islam. By knowing about that, we should start giving pleasure of husbands as it will strengthen our relation with them. Anyway, if you find this article interesting and beneficial enough, you can start sharing it to your friends on your social media. Sharing is caring, isn’t?