Marrying early might be such an impulsive decision to do, but guess what, in Islam, there are some justifications we can uphold to state that marrying early can be the right choice for youths. So let’s find out why!
- Giving You More Time to Know Each Other
Marrying early gives you more opportunity to figure out the real personality of each other. As we know, when we get married in such a young age, we still have more time to spend with our partner. The moment we have will be filled with such a slightly-bumpy journey that needs both cooperativeness. By marrying early, we can learn to be cooperative slowly because we have more time to spend with our partner.
2. As The Form of Obedience
As Muslims, we surely worship Allah by being obedient to the teachings of Islam. We also need to be obedient towards the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah may be upon him). To show our obedience to our beloved Prophet, we can do anything He required all Muslim to do, one of the easiest way is by getting married. In the hadith below, our Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah may be upon him) told us:
“O young people! Whoever among you is able to marry, should marry.” (Al-Bukhari).
3. Blessed With Love and Mercy
Marrying early will give you the opportunity to feel the love and mercy by Allah earlier through the love you share with your partner. It is told in the Qur’an:
وَمِنْ آيَاتِهِ أَنْ خَلَقَ لَكُمْ مِنْ أَنْفُسِكُمْ أَزْوَاجًا لِتَسْكُنُوا إِلَيْهَا وَجَعَلَ بَيْنَكُمْ مَوَدَّةً وَرَحْمَةً ۚ إِنَّ فِي ذَٰلِكَ لَآيَاتٍ لِقَوْمٍ يَتَفَكَّرُونَ
“And one of His signs is that He has created for you, spouses from amongst yourselves so that you might take comfort in them and He has placed between you, love and mercy. In this there is surely evidence (of the truth) for the people who carefully think.” (Qur’an 30:21)
4. Having More Time to Raise Children
When you’re having children in such a young age, you’ll have more productive time raising them, making sure that they’re well treated. Before that, it’s easy to conceive pregnancy when you’re in the young age, compared by those who are in the late ages. The risk for your health is well maintained by deciding to get married and pregnant in early 20s. Having children also gives you spiritual awareness as it is told in the Qur’an:
يَا أَيُّهَا النَّاسُ اتَّقُوا رَبَّكُمُ الَّذِي خَلَقَكُمْ مِنْ نَفْسٍ وَاحِدَةٍ وَخَلَقَ مِنْهَا زَوْجَهَا وَبَثَّ مِنْهُمَا رِجَالًا كَثِيرًا وَنِسَاءً ۚ وَاتَّقُوا اللَّهَ الَّذِي تَسَاءَلُونَ بِهِ وَالْأَرْحَامَ ۚ إِنَّ اللَّهَ كَانَ عَلَيْكُمْ رَقِيبًا
“O’ mankind! Have consciousness of your Lord who has created you from a single soul. From it He created your spouse and through them He populated the land with many men and women. Have spiritual awareness of the One by whose Name you swear to settle your differences and have respect for the wombs that bore you. Without doubt, Allah (SWT) keeps watch over you all.”(Qur’an, 4:1)
5. Achieving Physical and Spiritual Chastity
Marrying early gives you a physical and spiritual chastity as it might prevent you from the temptation of Satans. Chastity is one of the important attribute of Muslims as mentioned in the verse below:
“who strictly guard their chastity (private parts).” (Qur’an 23:5)
6. As The Guarantee of Righteous Offspring
When you have righteous children, and raising them through principle of the Islamic Shariah, you might be committed the best form of charity as the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah may be upon him) said:
“When a person dies his deeds discontinue, except for three things: Ongoing charity, knowledge which people benefit from, and a righteous son who prays for him.” (Muslim).
7. Being Blessed Through The Livelihood
Allah has promised couples the blessing for their livelihood. It is told through the verse below:
“And marry those among you who are single (i.e. a man who has no wife and the woman who has no husband) and (also marry) the Salihun (pious, fit and capable ones) of your (male) slaves and maid-servants (female slaves). If they be poor, Allah will enrich them out of His Bounty. And Allah is All-Sufficient for His creatures’ needs, All-Knowing (about the state of the people).” (Qur’an 24:32).
8. More Time to Develop Together
When we get married in an early age, we will have more time left to let each other developed through good and bad times. It will be easier to develop as we will be having each other to support. Both of partner will not let each other down, and that’s why we can build the foundation of our relationship a way stronger.
9. Having More Rewards
The reward of a family is greater than what is spent individually Our beloved prophet (peace and blessings of Allah may be upon him) once said:
“No man earns anything better than that which he earns with his own hands, and what a man spends on himself, his wife, his child and his servant then it is charity.” (Ibn Majah).
10. Bringing Maturity and Responsibility Earlier
When we get married earlier, we’ll eventually have a self-realization to be responsible towards our family. That kind of maturity isn’t something that can always be achieved by most of youngsters. Both of the partner will settle to their obligations as husband, wife, even parents. That’s why we can say that getting married early can bring us more maturity and responsibility.
11. Having Partner to Protect Ourselves from Temptation that Surround Us
We are surrounded by temporal temptations and desires, for example like sexual desires. We need to put so much effort to control that even though it’s already in its highest level. Marrying early might be one solution to solve that problem, but it is very recommended to do if we are already mentally, financially, and physically prepared.
12. Having It Easy to Adapt From Life-Changing Experience After Marriage
Uniting two people in one commitment might not be as easy as expected. It demands acceptance of each other to understand the habits, either it’s good or bad. When we’re having too many bad habits, we need to quickly learn changing our negativity in order to build a good relationship. When we get married early, we’re still younger than those who are older, and it’s a bit easier for us to adapt to the new environment.
We might find it not difficult to learn being a good partner together compared to the old ones. As we grow together later, we’ll get older and better to each other as a couple. That’s why, when we get married in early 20s, we’ll have it easy to adapt from life-changing experience after marriage.
13. Empowering Us to Get Success More
Are you familiar with the phrase “from zero to hero”? The phrase might be suitable to depict the relationship of some particular couples who get married early and at the same time start building success from below. Isn’t it nice to have a supportive partner to accompany us achieving our success? They can empower us more and we can still motivate each other as we become more successful each day. That’s why, besides being challenging, marrying early can also be so empowering to us
Besides the benefits I’ve mentioned above, marrying early also have other benefits, as follows:
- Make us have more opportunity to develop our mental capabilities as a mature individual
- It can also make us have more opportunity to gain Allah’s paradise as long as we fulfill the rights of each other as partner.
That’s all the reasons why it is better to have an early marriage as youngster. May in the end Allah will always bless us with His Mercy!