First wedding night is a very special night for newly wedded Muslim couple. For the first time ever two people are allowed to touch and stare at each other with no limits or sins. As special as the wedding is, the first night is equally so. You need to find certain ways how to celebrate first night with wife in Islam so that you can make her happier.
What is forbidden before is now finally allowed, so here are the ways how to celebrate first night with wife in Islam:
1. Offer Drink to Your Wife
It was the sunnah from the Prophet to offer drink to wife. As narrated from Imam Ahmad from Asmaa bint Yazeed,
“ I prepared and beautified Aishah for the Messenger of Allah (SAW). Then he came and I called him to see her in all her beauty. He came and sat next to her. He was brought a large cup that contained milk. He drank and then handed it to her. She lowered her head and was shy. Asmaa then said: I rebuked her and told her to take it from the hand of the Messenger of Allah (SAW). She took it and drank some.”
2. Make a Supplication to Wife
In the first night of wedding, according to Prophet Muhammad (SAW),
“If any one of you marries a woman or buys a servant, he should take her by the forelock, mention Allah’s name [saying, ‘In the Name of Allah’] and pray blessings by saying, ‘O Allah, I ask you for her good and the good of what you have dispositioned her toward and I seek refuge from her evil and the evil you have dispositioned her toward.’” – Bukhari
3. Start the Intercourse with Bismillah
Before doing the intercourse, the husband should place his hand in the front part of her wife’s head and mention the name of Allah. And also read the following dua,
“O Allah! I ask of you the good of her and the good of what you have placed in her nature, and I seek refuge with you from the bad in her and the bad that you have placed in her nature.” – Abu Dawud
4. Pray for the First Day of Marriage
On the very first night of marriage, both the husband and wife should take wudu‘ and pray two raka’a after that. It was meant to ask for protection of their marriage from Shaytaan and ask for the blessing from Allah SWT.
5. Communicate What Both of You Want
As it is the first day of marriage, the communication between husband and wife is very important. From what you both wanted in life to how the first night should be going. [AdSense-B]
6. Recite a Certain Dua
After taking wudu’ and praying two raka’a, the husband and wife should recite this certain dua,
“O Allah! Bless me with her affection, love and her acceptance of me; and make me pleased with her, and bring us together in the best form of a union and in absolute harmony; surely You like lawful things and dislike unlawful things.
7. Still Make Dua Even Though You Don’t Do Intercourse
Sexual intercourse should not always be done right in the first night of wedding. There are some circumstances that make a newlywed couple unable to do intercourse. Even though, the husband should recite the dua above.
8. Say Romantic Things to Wife
Praise highly of your wife to make her know that you are actually happy to finally marry her. Say many romantic things to lift up the mood.
9. Shower Her with Affection
Kissing, hugging, and touching your wife is not allowed before marriage, but now when it’s no longer forbidden you may kiss and hug your wife. Shower her with many affection in the first night of your wedding in celebration of the moment. It also make her feel loved and protected. [AdSense-C]
10. Prepare Gifts and Surprise
Prepare gifts and surprise to your wife in celebration of your first wedding night. It can lift up the mood and the romantic things will make your wife love you even more than before.
Useful Tips for the First Night Intercourse
A newly wedded couple could be lost on their first night of wedding. Most of them don’t know what to do and get flustered of every first things. Here are some useful tips for the newlyweds regarding the first ever intercourse in the first night of their wedding.
- First night for a newly wedded bride and groom can be very awkward as they never that close before. Release the tension by cracking some jokes or humor. But remember, don’t make her as the object of your jokes.
- Don’t miss the foreplay as it can relax your tensed wife. Start bay caressing her first, kiss her, and hug her. Make the process slow and don;t rush anything.
- Don’t force your wife if she doesn’t feel like to do the intercourse, especially when she is on period on the first night of the marriage. It could be happen somehow, and as a good husband, you should be considerate of your wife.
- Don’t be so determine to find out your wife’s virginity. Many men would do the hymn check to verify that his wife is still virgin. In fact, not every women are born with hymnal tissue. Some of them have it so thick, some of them are thin, while others don’t have it at all.
- After marriage, sex is halal for you and your wife. Accept sex as a way to please your wife and seeking for blessing from Allah SWT. Sex is never a wrong thing in Islam if it’s done under the sacred bond of marriage.
So those are the ways how to celebrate first night with wife in Islam. Making your wife happy considered a a good deed in Islam. Prepare for the best in treating your wife to make a very happy marriage in the future.