Islam taught us for loving each other and care for others. Whether they are family members, friends, neighbors, and your special spouse. As long as we always giving a kind of act, may Allah give His blessing and we get to know the purposes of believing in Allah for Muslims. Includes celebrating a wedding anniversary, it is permissible to do.
Celebrating the wedding anniversary for a couple is a sign to remember Allah for the blessing of their married. To be more thankful as their gratitude form towards Allah to their marriage life.
That is why, instead of reminding their love, the couple also wish for the best and get more grateful marriage life. These can avoid us from the act that why we should get rid of jealousy.
Then, why some people say celebrating the wedding anniversary is haram? It is about cultures. People are afraid and worried about the cultures that have no same tradition in their culture. A wedding anniversary commonly comes from western culture. So that makes people worried about doing the bad thing. But, it can help us to know the meaning of tolerance from the perspective of Islam.
Positively, celebrating a wedding anniversary is a sign that the couple always loves and cares for each other. Not only for their marriage life but also for their love and care for their children as part of their family. Giving love and make your spouse happy is lawful to do.
Here we have some reasons why celebrate a wedding anniversary is allowed in Islam.
1. Loving Each Other
Celebrating a wedding anniversary is a sign that the couple has a loving each other life. Allah loves them who always make their spouse happy so that their marriage life will be more grateful than before. It will make the couple happier and have a long life happy marriage.
In the Quran surah Ar-Rum verse 21 mention about this.
وَمِنْ اٰيٰتِهٖٓ اَنْ خَلَقَ لَكُمْ مِّنْ اَنْفُسِكُمْ اَزْوَاجًا لِّتَسْكُنُوْٓا اِلَيْهَا وَجَعَلَ بَيْنَكُمْ مَّوَدَّةً وَّرَحْمَةً ۗاِنَّ فِيْ ذٰلِكَ لَاٰيٰتٍ لِّقَوْمٍ يَّتَفَكَّرُوْنَ – ٢١
“And among His signs (greatness) is that He creates pairs for you of your own kind, so that you tend and feel at ease with him, and He makes among you love and affection. Indeed, in that there really are signs (the greatness of God) for people who think.” (QS 30:21)
2. Respect The Marriage Life
A wedding anniversary can be a sign that your spouse becomes more respectful to your marriage life. Not only for you but also for your children. Have a respectful spouse is a part of a grateful life. That is why the wedding anniversary can be celebrated in the Islamic way. Such as have a prayer and make dua for it.
In the Quran surah, An Nisa verse 34 mentions about this.
اَلرِّجَالُ قَوَّامُوْنَ عَلَى النِّسَاۤءِ بِمَا فَضَّلَ اللّٰهُ بَعْضَهُمْ عَلٰى بَعْضٍ وَّبِمَآ اَنْفَقُوْا مِنْ اَمْوَالِهِمْ ۗ فَالصّٰلِحٰتُ قٰنِتٰتٌ حٰفِظٰتٌ لِّلْغَيْبِ بِمَا حَفِظَ اللّٰهُ ۗوَالّٰتِيْ تَخَافُوْنَ نُشُوْزَهُنَّ فَعِظُوْهُنَّ وَاهْجُرُوْهُنَّ فِى الْمَضَاجِعِ وَاضْرِبُوْهُنَّ ۚ فَاِنْ اَطَعْنَكُمْ فَلَا تَبْغُوْا عَلَيْهِنَّ سَبِيْلًا ۗاِنَّ اللّٰهَ كَانَ عَلِيًّا كَبِيْرًا – ٣٤
“Men (husbands) protect for women (husbands), because Allah has surpassed most of them (women), and because they (men) have provided a living from their wealth. Then righteous women are those who obey (to God) and ask for self-compilation (to agree) do not exist, because God has asked (them). The women that you worry about will be cheeky, will you give advice to them, ask them in bed (separate beds), and (if necessary) beat them up. If they obey you, then do not find excuses to trouble them. Truly, Allah is the Most High, the Greatest.” (QS 4:34)
3. Responsible Husband
Spend your wealth for your spouse is lawful to as the Islamic way on how you treat your wife. As a responsible husband that giving love to His wife, it is mandatory in Islam to make your wife happy with what you have. Everything you have comes from Allah and so that you can use it for your marriage life needs as the importance to appreciate your spouse.
In the Quran surah At talaq verse 6 mentions about this.
اَسْكِنُوْهُنَّ مِنْ حَيْثُ سَكَنْتُمْ مِّنْ وُّجْدِكُمْ وَلَا تُضَاۤرُّوْهُنَّ لِتُضَيِّقُوْا عَلَيْهِنَّۗ وَاِنْ كُنَّ اُولَاتِ حَمْلٍ فَاَنْفِقُوْا عَلَيْهِنَّ حَتّٰى يَضَعْنَ حَمْلَهُنَّۚ فَاِنْ اَرْضَعْنَ لَكُمْ فَاٰتُوْهُنَّ اُجُوْرَهُنَّۚ وَأْتَمِرُوْا بَيْنَكُمْ بِمَعْرُوْفٍۚ وَاِنْ تَعَاسَرْتُمْ فَسَتُرْضِعُ لَهٗٓ اُخْرٰىۗ – ٦
“Place them (wives) where you live according to your abilities and do not trouble them to narrow (their hearts). And if they (the wives who have been barked) are pregnant, then give them their living until they give birth, then if they suckle (your children) then give them rewards; and deliberate among you (all things) well; and if you encounter difficulties, then another woman may suckle (the child) for her.” (QS 65:6)
4. Grateful Marriage
Celebrating a wedding anniversary in Islamic wy and make it as the sign for your grateful towards Allah is lawful. It is important to remember what Allah gave to your marriage life. That is one of the benefits of being grateful in this moment is mandatory. Don’t forget to make a good wish to get more blessing marriage life.
In the Quran surah, Al A’raf verse 189 mentions about this.
هُوَ الَّذِيْ خَلَقَكُمْ مِّنْ نَّفْسٍ وَّاحِدَةٍ وَّجَعَلَ مِنْهَا زَوْجَهَا لِيَسْكُنَ اِلَيْهَاۚ فَلَمَّا تَغَشّٰىهَا حَمَلَتْ حَمْلًا خَفِيْفًا فَمَرَّتْ بِهٖ ۚفَلَمَّآ اَثْقَلَتْ دَّعَوَا اللّٰهَ رَبَّهُمَا لَىِٕنْ اٰتَيْتَنَا صَالِحًا لَّنَكُوْنَنَّ مِنَ الشّٰكِرِيْنَ – ١٨٩
“He was the one who created you from one soul (Adam) and from there He created his partner, so that he felt happy with him. So after mixing, (his wife) contains a mild content, and he continues to feel light (some time). Then when he feels heavy, both (husband and wife) plead with Allah, their Lord (while saying), “If you give us godly children, surely we will always be grateful.” (QS 7:189)
So there are four reasons for celebrating a wedding anniversary that allows us to do in Islam. may Allah give your blessing in your marriage life.