17 Rules Of Mourning In Islam
Every human being that Allah Almighty creates will surely end in death. In here, the difference is the time when death will happen to us. So, below here are 17 Rules Of Mourning In Islam that we must observe.
- The dua when Muslims are hit by disaster
Rasulullah SAW taught this dua when Muslims are hit by the disaster. The following prayer is written in the Quran. Below the following here Allah Almighty says in the Quran. See also Prohibition of Begging in Islam
“And We will surely test you with something of fear and hunger and a loss of wealth and lives and fruits, but give good tidings to the patient. Who, when disaster strikes them, say, “Indeed we belong to Allah, and indeed to Him, we will return. Those are the ones upon whom are blessings from their Lord and mercy. And it is those who are the [rightly] guided.” (Verse 2:155-157)
2. Understanding the family situation that abandoned (death)
We should as Muslims understand the grieving situation to the families that have been abandoned. As relatives, friends, and our neighbors must be obliged to help and help them (families) who are in mourning. Following below Rasulullah SAW said in his hadith.
From Abdullah bin Ja’far, he said: “The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:” Make food for the Ja’far family. Because they are getting unequaled activity. ”
(Abu Dawud, Tirmidhi, and Ibn Majah)
3. Only three days of mournings in Islam
In Islam, we are taught do not to be sad and do not to be dissolved in sadness. Prophet Muhammad SAW said any Muslim who mourns over death is given only three days. The following below Rasulullah SAW said in his hadith. See also Law of Doing Donating Blood During Ramadhan
“No woman who believes in Allah and the Last Day to mourn over death over three days, except for the death of her husband” (Muslim)
4. The death of a loved one
Abandoned by someone who is loved one, actually, it is very heavy. A wife left by her husband may mourn over her death more than 3 days to be exact for 4 months. Below here Allah Almighty says in the Quran.
“And those who are taken in death between you and leave wives behind – them, (the wives, shall) wait four months and ten [days]. And when they have fulfilled their term, then there is no blame upon you for what they do with themselves in an acceptable manner. And Allah is [fully] Acquainted with what you do. ”
(Verse 2: 234)
5. Should not be preening or dressing in a period of mourning
In the period of mourning, there is a behavior to be noticed. Prophet Muhammad SAW teaches us, especially for women are not to preen or dress in the period of mourning. Below here is the Prophet Muhammad SAW said in his hadith. See also Law of Brushing Teeth During Fasting
“It should not be embellished on the body (az-ziinah fil bodies), such as coloring hair or limbs with henna (khidhab), using a wig (iktihal) of all kinds, unless it is needed for treatment, not for decoration, use at night but should be removed in the morning. His argument for the hadith of Umm Athiyah RA, he said about the prohibition in the period of mourning, “We do not use the wool, do not use the fragrance, do not use dyed clothes …” (Bukhari and Muslim).
6. Should not wear perfume during a mourning
Prophet Muhammad SAW also taught us that is for a woman do not touch any perfume and wear it when she mourns. Below here is Prophet Muhammad SAW says in his hadith.
“Let not the woman touch the perfume.” (Bukhari)
7. Should not wear special clothes during the mourning
Any Muslim who mourns wearing special clothing in a particular color is not really an Islamic teaching. Below here is the Prophet Muhammad SAW says in his hadith. See also Law of Men Wearing Necklaces in Islam
“Whoever resembles a people, he belongs to them.” (Abu Dawud)
8. Do not cry too hard
The Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) also taught us that every mourning Muslim should not cry too hard. In fact, this is behavior which is not allowed in Islam. Below here is the Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) says in his hadith.
Prophet Muhammad, Peace be upon him, also said: “I detest a woman who cries out very loudly, or shaves her hair, or tears her clothes when a beloved one dies.” (Bukhari and Muslim)
9. Do not show sadness
Maybe some people still do some of these things, they show sadness as they let their beards grow and they wear black clothes. In fact, this kind of thing it has no basis in Islam. Below here is the Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) says in his hadith. See also Law of Maintaining Beards According to Islam
Prophet Muhammad, Peace be upon him, said: “He is not of us who beats his face, tears his clothes and bewails loudly when misfortune happens to him as was done before during the days of ignorance”.
(Bukhari and Muslim)
10. Suggest something gently
Every Muslim is advised to guide things gently to others to stop doing things that are forbidden by Islam. Indeed every Muslim who is in mourning must bear things with patience and accept all the destiny of Allah Almighty with sincerity. Below here is the Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) says in his hadith.
“ It is a mercy that Allah made in the hearts of his servants”. (Bukhari).
11. Expression of sadness in Islam
In Islam, Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) said that we as Muslims should be able to understand the sadness in mourning. Below here in the hadith, the Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) said that screaming in the mourning is something that is not allowed in Islam. See also Law of Abandoning Fasting Intentionally
“Whatever comes from eye and heart is from God and is a sign of mercy, and whatever comes from the hand and tongue is from the Devil.” (Ahmad)
12. Aisha’s actions at the death of Prophet Muhammad (PBUH)
In one hadith mentions Aisha’s actions with her ignorance and youth that the Messenger of Allah had died on her lap. Aisha was so struck to do what she should not. After that, she has realized and repented to Allah Almighty that she did before. Below here is the complete hadith.
“Allah Ta’ala’s Apostle died in my breast during my turn, and I do not blame anyone in his case. It was because of my ignorance and my kingdom that the Messenger of Allah died when he was in my lap. Then I put his head on the pillow and got up while beating my chest and slapping my face with the women “(At Tabari)
13. Patience must be done at the time of mourning
Even though we as Muslims are saddened by mournings and disaster we should patient. Stay patient and leave it all to Allah Almighty. Surely the disaster that befell us is a form of the manifestation of patience. Below here Allah says in the Holy Book of Quran. See also Law of Playing Dice in Islam
“O you who have believed, seek help through patience and prayer. Indeed, Allah is with the patient. “
(Verse 2: 153)
14. A dress becomes a healer
The mourning crying makes many lights disappear from the eyes. For that, a garment that has a relationship with the body (like a prophet) it has many of mean. Below here in the Quranic verse, Allah has said this.
“Take this, my shirt, and cast it over the face of my father; he will become seeing. And bring me your family, all together. “(Verse 12:93)
15. Respect the most important place
As Muslims, we should respect matters relating to parents, teachers, prophets, and others. Honor on the basis of honor taught by Allah Almighty. Below here Allah Almighty says in the Quran. See also The Law of Cutting Hair While Pregnant
“O you who have believed, do not violate the rites of Allah or [the sanctity of] the sacred month or [neglect the marking of] the sacrificial animals and garlanding [them] or [violate the safety of] those coming to the Sacred House seeking bounty from their Lord and [His] approval.
But when you come out of ihram, then [you may] hunt. And do not let the hatred of a people for having obstructed you from al-Masjid al-Haram lead you to transgress.
And cooperate in righteousness and piety, but do not cooperate in sin and aggression. And fear Allah; indeed, Allah is severe in penalty.” (Verse 5: 2)
16. All human beings will death
Allah Almighty has said in a verse of the Quran below that all living beings created by Allah Almighty will inevitably end up in death. Below here is the details of a verse Quran.
“Wherever you may be, death will overtake you, even if you should be within the towers of lofty construction. But if good comes to them, they say, “This is from God”; and if evil befalls them, they say, “This is from you.” Say, “All [things] are from God.” So what is [the matter] with those people that they can hardly understand any statement? “(Verse 4:78)
17. Allah’s Almighty Decree
It is Allah’s decree that every living creature He created will die by the permission of Allah. Every living thing has its own time when he will die, including humans. Death is a provision of Allah Almighty that cannot be changed in any way. Below here Allah Almighty says in the Quran. See also Law of Smoking in Ramadhan
“And it is not (possible) for one to die except by permission of Allah at a decree determined. And whoever desires the reward of this world – We will give him thereof, and whoever desires the reward of the Hereafter – We will give him thereof. And we will reward the grateful.” (Verse 3:145)
Hopefully, 17 rules of mourning in Islam above can provide benefits, especially for Muslims wherever you are. Everyone will surely feel sorrow if they left their beloved. We should be patient and leave it all to Allah Almighty. Verily, it is the best medicine to release all of our pain in our hearts.