5 Ways on How to Make Marriage Stronger In Islam

Marriage becomes a crucial thing for the couple as it comes from two different people that suddenly should living together after the marriage sentence is declared. That makes sense if some people have so many struggles about marriage life so that there is a Dua for newlyweds in Islam.

Some of them even said that it is hard to do even they already living together for so many years once they got married. For some people, those become an important problem that should be done without giving a divorce sentence.

Having a happy ever after of marriage living in Islam perspective also as important as what Muslim thought. That is there are so many ways to keep the marriage stronger based on the Quran. Let’s see some of them below!

1. Caring Each Other

Caring for another is one of the good deeds that Muslims should apply in their daily life. Not only caring to your parents but also your spouses as the ones you love the most. Caring for each other means one on another capable to know deeply what their spouse wants without abandoning the Islamic law.

Besides, caring for each other will not only protect you but also yourselves. Caring for each other is already mentions in the Quran surah An Nisa verse 34 as the husband should protect his wife and caring his spouse.

اَلرِّجَالُ قَوَّامُوْنَ عَلَى النِّسَاۤءِ بِمَا فَضَّلَ اللّٰهُ بَعْضَهُمْ عَلٰى بَعْضٍ وَّبِمَآ اَنْفَقُوْا مِنْ اَمْوَالِهِمْ ۗ فَالصّٰلِحٰتُ قٰنِتٰتٌ حٰفِظٰتٌ لِّلْغَيْبِ بِمَا حَفِظَ اللّٰهُ ۗ

“Men (husbands) are protectors for women (wives), because Allah has exaggerated some of them (men) over others (women), and because they (men) have provided a living from their wealth. So the pious women are those who obey (to Allah) and take care of themselves when (her husband) is not around because Allah has guarded (them).” (QS 4:34)

2. Sharing Each Other

Commonly, caring is followed by sharing so that the married couple can truly understand each other. Sharing is important so that you know better about everything in your spouses. That will strengthen your marriage and understood that Allah will always be seeing you and your spouse.

Sharing will make your marriage relationship comes from the trust with an honest opinion from you and your spouse. That makes you avoid to lying your spouse, easier to make Dua avoid anger in Islam and keep good deeds towards Allah. Such as mentions in the Quran surah An Nisa verse 57.

وَالَّذِيْنَ اٰمَنُوْا وَعَمِلُوا الصّٰلِحٰتِ سَنُدْخِلُهُمْ جَنّٰتٍ تَجْرِيْ مِنْ تَحْتِهَا الْاَنْهٰرُ خٰلِدِيْنَ فِيْهَآ اَبَدًاۗ لَهُمْ فِيْهَآ اَزْوَاجٌ مُّطَهَّرَةٌ ۙ وَّنُدْخِلُهُمْ ظِلًّا ظَلِيْلًا – ٥٧

“As for those who believe and do good deeds, one day we will enter into heaven that flows under the rivers, they are eternal in them as long as they belong. There they have a holy couple, and We are with them in the shade again comfortable.” (QS 4:57)

3. Trust Each Other

Having a relationship that is based on trust between each other is important. That will not only make your marriage relationship stronger but also has a healthy relationship. If you trust your spouse, then so does your spouse will trust you back.

In Islam, trust each other commonly following with the faith towards Allah on their way how to stay Istiqamah. That means both of the couples trust their spouse under Allah’s rule or based on the Islamic way. In other words, Allah knows everything so that they will keep in Allah’s ways.

Such mentions on the Quran surah An Nahl verse 92 below as one of the values of the Quran surah An Nahl.

وَلَا تَكُوْنُوْا كَالَّتِيْ نَقَضَتْ غَزْلَهَا مِنْۢ بَعْدِ قُوَّةٍ اَنْكَاثًاۗ 

“And do not be like a woman who untwists her twisted threads that have been twisted tightly, becoming scattered again…” (QS 16:92)

4. Forgiving

Forgiving your spouse sometimes can be difficult to do for a married couple. Moreover, if they make the same mistake again and again. Facing that situation, it is better to discuss to get clearer consequences for the guilt as one of the ways on how to forgive someone.

Hence, forgiving your spouse will be easier after the discussion is done. Besides, the one who forgives your spouse will get more blessings from Allah. Such as mentions on the Quran surah At Tagabun verse 14 mentions this.

يٰٓاَيُّهَا الَّذِيْنَ اٰمَنُوْٓا اِنَّ مِنْ اَزْوَاجِكُمْ وَاَوْلَادِكُمْ عَدُوًّا لَّكُمْ فَاحْذَرُوْهُمْۚ وَاِنْ تَعْفُوْا وَتَصْفَحُوْا وَتَغْفِرُوْا فَاِنَّ اللّٰهَ غَفُوْرٌ رَّحِيْمٌ – ١٤

“O, believers! Indeed, among your wives and your children, there are enemies to you, so be careful of them, and if you apologize and you are gracious and forgive (them), then truly, Allah is Forgiving, Most Merciful.”

5. Wealth Agreement

Sometimes, the married couple has a serious quarrel because of their wealth. That is why having an agreement to your wealth towards your spouse is important. As long as there is no injured party, having a clear agreement on how you set the plan of your wealth is important.

Making a clear wealth agreement will protect both you and your spouse. Besides, under the Islamic way, there also a clear message that written on the Quran surah An Nisa verse 19.

يٰٓاَيُّهَا الَّذِيْنَ اٰمَنُوْا لَا يَحِلُّ لَكُمْ اَنْ تَرِثُوا النِّسَاۤءَ كَرْهًا ۗ وَلَا تَعْضُلُوْهُنَّ لِتَذْهَبُوْا بِبَعْضِ مَآ اٰتَيْتُمُوْهُنَّ اِلَّآ اَنْ يَّأْتِيْنَ بِفَاحِشَةٍ مُّبَيِّنَةٍ ۚ وَعَاشِرُوْهُنَّ بِالْمَعْرُوْفِ ۚ فَاِنْ كَرِهْتُمُوْهُنَّ فَعَسٰٓى اَنْ تَكْرَهُوْا شَيْـًٔا وَّيَجْعَلَ اللّٰهُ فِيْهِ خَيْرًا كَثِيْرًا – ١٩

“O you who believe! It is not lawful for you to inherit women by force and do not trouble them because you want to take back some of what you have given them unless they have committed an obvious heinous act. And associate with them in the proper way. If you don’t like them, (then be patient) because maybe you don’t like something, even though Allah makes a lot of good for him.” (QS 4:19)

So, there are some ways on how to make your marriage stronger in Islam based on the Quran. Keep doing good deeds so may Allah will give His blessing to your marriage life.