After marriage, men and women have officially become husband and wife. The intercourse that was initially banned is actually recommended because part of the worship.
Husbands and wives can do it on the first night by getting to know each other and possibly having sex for the first time. So that the relationship during the first night can run smoothly and in accordance with Islamic Shari’a. Both brides must know things to do so that sexual activity will run smoothly and get a reward.
The first night of marriage is not just a body relationship. But there is something more important that how to make the first night as a husband and wife can be passed well so that it can unite the emotions and feelings between the two. So how to relate to the wife during the first night? Rule and ordinance of true wife is the one according to what is exemplified by Rasulullah SAW.
As already known that Prophet Muhammad SAW is the best example in life is no exception in terms of marriage and everything that is in it.
Therefore as a Muslim it is fitting to imitate and imitate it. Here are rules in relating to the wife when the first night. So that someday the born child is endowed and protected by Allah subhanahu wata’ala. There are 10 rules that must be done by husbands when making out with a wife. Among others are:
1. Straightening Intention
Intention is a very important point in Islam. Because every deed done by a human is judged by his intentions. Married husband and wife should be intended to keep their honor. This is based on the words of the Messenger of Allah,
“The three men who have the right to God help them: a man who strives in the way of Allah, a slave (in agreement between himself and his master) who wants a marriage and a married person who wants to keep his honor.” (Narrated by Ahmad, Tirmidhi, Ibn Majah and Judge of Abu Hurairoh hadith)
2. Husband should say hi (Assalamu’alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh) to the wife, as exemplified by the Prophet sallallaahu alaihi wa sallam.
3. Should a husband do light jokes and light chats that mubah so that the atmosphere is not tense. It may start with a drink or sweets.
4. Put the husband’s hand on the forehead or head of the wife while praying:
Allahummaa innii as-aluka min khairihaa wa khairi maa jabaltahaa alaihi Wa ‘audzubika min syarrihaa wa syarri maa fiihaa wa syarri maa jabaltahaa alaihi
“O Allah, I plead with you for his goodness and goodness of attitudes (attitudes or behavior) that he carries. And I take refuge from his ugliness and the ugliness of the nature (attitude or behavior) which he carries. “(Narrated by Bukhari)
5. Should the husband invite the wife to perform sunnah prayers two rak’ah (the history of the salafus salihus or the former shalih).
It aims to provide peace of mind and to reduce tension. (Sunnah Prayers are allowed to be amplified)
6. Sunnah to husband and wife to brushing teeth (toothbrush) before the relationship.
7. Read the prayer when it will be fifth (according to the majority of jima prayer clerics’ read by husband only). The wife in charge of reminding her husband to always read it when want or want to have sex.
As a leak, jima ‘prayer readings are as follows:
بسم الله, اللهم جنبنا الشيطان وجنب الشيطان ما رزقتنا.
“In the name of Allah, O Allah, keep me from syaithan and keep syaithan from the child you want to give us.” (Narrated by Bukhari-Muslim)
Rasulullah shallallaahu ‘alaihi wa’ ala transfer wa sallam said:
“So, if God ordained the birth of a child from the relationship between the two, surely syaithan will not harm and harm him forever.”
8. Being Soft Gentle to Couples While having sex
Gentle attitude will make the couple more comfortable so as to create a romantic atmosphere. This can be seen in a hadith that is below.
In a narrative of Ahmad in al Musnad of Asma binti Yazid bin Sakan said,
“I once put on Aisha for the Messenger of Allah and I went to him and asked him to see the beauty of Aisha. He came to him with a glass of milk and he drank it and gave it to Aishah then Aisha bowed her head in shame. Asma said, “So I reprimanded him.” And I told him, “Take (drink) from the hands of the Prophet.” Asma said, “So Aisha took it and drank it a little.”
9. Husbands may pursue their wives in any way they like. But remember only on his cock only
As in the word of Allah subhanahu wata’ala which means:
“Your wives are (as) the land where you cultivate (the field for you), then come the land where you cultivate (the field) that way you want (anytime you like). And do good deeds for yourselves, and fear Allah and know that you will meet Him. And give glad tidings to those who believe. “(Q.S. Al Baqarah: 223)
Asbabun Nuzul above verse is:
Ibn’Abbas radhiallahu ‘anhu said, “Once when Umar ibn Khattab met Rasulullah sallallaahu’ alaihi wasallam, saying,
” Yes, Messenger of Allah, woe me. “He sallallaahu ‘alaihi wasallam again commented,” What makes you wretched, O Um ibn Khattab? “
Umar ibn Khattab then replied,
“I turned my boat up last night”.
But the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alaihi wasallam did not give an answer to that question. Until down verses as the word of Allah ta’ala above.
Then, the Messenger of Allaah (sallAllaahu ‘alaihi wasallam) said,
“having sex with your wife from the front or back. But avoid or do not intercourse from the rectum or when he was menstruating. “
10. If the husband wants to be fifth ‘with his wife, but the wife is haidh or puerper then he can make love with his wife on condition not on his cock
This is in accordance with the words of the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alaihi wasallam which means:
“Do anything but jima ‘or have sex.”
Hadith Sahih narrated by Imam Muslim no. 302 and Abu Dawud no. 257. And delivered by Anas ibn Malik radhiallahu ‘anhu’s companion.
11. It is okay for the husband to interfere or interfere with his wife at any time
12. If you want to repeat sex (usually the new bride), then it is desirable to perform ablution or bathing mandatory
The strongest opinion of the majority of scholars is done by the husband alone. And last for the husband before bed make sure it is in the condition of bathing mandatory.
- Not Allowed to Broadcast the Secret of Husbands Wife
Keeping the couple’s secret is a must. Because the shame has been covered by Allah Subhanahu wa ta’ala, it is not worth it if the disgrace is told to others. In addition, who has a disgrace will surely feel angry when his weakness spread.
Narrated Ahmad from Asma binti Yazid who was sitting near the Prophet (saws) along with men and women and he said:
“It could be a man telling what he did with his wife and could be a wife telling what he did with husband. “So they fell silent. Then I asked, “By Allah’s Messenger, the women actually do that as well as their men do it.” He said, “Do not do it. In fact it is like a male demon associated with female demon in the street (male devils) covering up (female demon) while people watch it. “