Death is a destiny that no one could run away from. Someone may have their hardest time when their loved ones have passed away. Moving on is never easy and get on with life is something that one can not be sure of. However, we should not take too long time in grieve.
Even though the death of our loved ones is unexpected, but the living should continue to live. But if we find it hard to move on, here are the ways on how to accept death in Islam:
1. Trust the Future in Allah SWT
When our family or our loved ones left us, we become unsure about the future. Especially when the death is our father or husband. How can we continue to live without them? Who will support the family? And many more questions. As we never know the goods behind Allah’s decision, we must trust Him that the future ahead will be better.
“Be sure, We shall test you through fear and hunger, some loss in goods or lives or the fruits (of your toil) but glad tidings to those who patiently persevere.” – Al Baqara (2:155)
2. Allah SWT Always Knows Best
There are times when we can’t understand why Allah SWT seems to put so much burden that we can’t bear. The fact is, what Allah has put on our shoulders is actually still within our capability.
As Allah has promised,
“Allah does not charge a soul except [with that within] its capacity. It will have [the consequence of] what [good] it has gained, and it will bear [the consequence of] what [evil] it has earned. “Our Lord, do not impose blame upon us if we have forgotten or erred. Our Lord, and lay not upon us a burden like that which You laid upon those before us. Our Lord, and burden us not with that which we have no ability to bear. And pardon us; and forgive us; and have mercy upon us. You are our protector, so give us victory over the disbelieving people.” – Al Baqara (2:286)
3. Be Patient
The best way we can do to cope with sadness from the death of our loved ones is by being patient. Allah SWT will always replace every bad things happen in our life with something that is definitely better. A great reward will be given to us if we can be patient with everything Allah put on us.
“O you who believe! Seek assistance through patience and prayer. Surely Allah is with the patient.” – Al Baqara (2:45)
4. Send Dua to Your Loved Ones
After going on to the another world, the death can no longer make dua for themselves nor to you. Dua is the most important thing for them now, and every deceased are desperate for them. If you really love them, the only thing you can do is sending the dua. Especially the children of the death who send prayer to them.
As said by Prophet Muhammad (SAW),
“A man’s status will be raised in Paradise and he will ask, ‘How did I get here?’ He will be told, ‘By your son’s du’aa’s (prayers) for forgiveness for you.”
5. Give Charity in the Name of the Dead Person
A death person can also continue to do good deeds through the living. The useful thing that can be done is by doing charity in the name of that dead person. It’s a Sunnah and should not be taken lightly as the benefits is very huge for the death.
6. Pay Their Debt
If the dead person still left debt to others, it become the responsibility of the living to pay it off. It lightens the burden the dead must carried and make their way in the Hereafter much easier than before. Look for every person that the dead person might have debt too by asking to the people around them.
7. Forgive Their Wrongdoings
As no human being is perfect, they continue to make mistake and wrongdoing. No matter how big their mistakes may be, forgive them to help the dead. Don’t hold any grudges toward the death. Allah SWT Himself is very merciful and always forgive all the sins, we as human should show some traits of it too.
8. Reflect on Death
When someone around us dead, it should be a good warning to us that the ultimate destiny of a person is to death and return to Allah SWT. Use the chance to do even more good deeds and doing things with the intention to please Allah SWT. We should remember death more often to hold ourselves from committing the sins.
9. Speak Only Good Things About Them
Do not speak ill of the dead even though you hate them. If you can’t speak good things about them, it’s better for you to remain quiet. Don’t spread gossip that may cause hurt to them in the grave. [AdSense-C]
10. Don’t Let the Sadness Linger for Too Long
It’s okay to be sad and cry when our loved ones dead. But we must not be sad for a long period of time. It makes their way to the Hereafter even more difficult as the sadness of the living become a huge burden for them.
What To Do When Our Loved Ones Passed Away
- Recite Quran in the name of the death person as they can no longer doing good deeds on their own.
- Ask forgiveness from Allah SWT on their behalf.
- Carry out all their wills and promises which they hasn’t done yet.
- Be good to their friends and attend all the events where they are invited or should be attended.
- Pay for the fidya (expiatory payments) when the dead missed out Shalat or fast due to their illness.
So those are the ways how to accept death in Islam so that we won’t be sad for a long time. The longer we sad because, the more the death will be in pain. Let’s all move on and doing many good deeds in behalf of our loved ones who has left the world and our side.