Allah never forbids a love. Love is a feeling that is already natural to every human being. However, human beings are commanded to keep that love not necessarily plunge it into action that is forbidden by Him. Love must be the medium to draw near to Him. Of course, you want someone to love you as a human and will take care of you. You can’t be alone and want to do something to make someone love you so you can have a place to live with people that love you and get a happy life.
Beautified for mankind (is) love (of) the (things they) desire – of [the] women and [the] sons and [the] heaps [the] stored up of [the] gold and [the] silver, and [the] horses [the] branded, and [the] cattle and [the] tilled land. That (is) provision (of) life (of) the world but Allah – with Him (is an) excellent [the] abode to return. (Al-Imran 3:14)
Here is presented how to make someone love you in Islam.
1. Love Allah
Loving Allah is the key to get love from someone. Allah has already told that someone who loves Him so much and always remember Him will get the love from the people around him. People will see the sincerity of your love and won’t think twice to love you because they have seen your love to Allah.
“Three things, if all three are in a person, he will feel the sweetness of faith: If Allah and His Messenger he loved more than beside the two, he loves someone, he does not love it except for Allah, and he hates to return to kufr after Allah saves himself, as his hatred if he is to be thrown into the fire.” (Muttafaqun ‘alaih)
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2. Always smile to everyone
By smiling at people you meet, it shows that you are happy to meet her. A sincere smile means that you’re happy. This smile is one form of positive emotion that we can transmit to others. This pleasant condition allows us to interact better. She will begin taking an interest to talk with you and can make her love you when talking together and becoming closer in the future.
“Do not you underestimate the goodness of the slightest, even if only by meeting with your brother with a radiant face”. (H.R. Muslim no 2626)
3. Greet when you meet someone
Greeting someone will make her know that you care and remember her. Of course, every person wants to be remembered and cared by her friends. By greeting her every day, you can also make her know and love you more. In Islam, the greeting is a worship so we can get rewards too by doing it.
“Not going to heaven until you have faith. And you are not said to believe that you love each other. Will I show you something that if done will make you love each other? Spread the greetings among you.” (HR Muslim no.54)
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4. Believe in Allah
You must believe in Allah that you will get someone that will love you. Allah can arrange everything including meeting someone that will be your future companion. Allah can make her love you even though you meet her in an accident or at the first time.
If Allah loves a servant, He will call Jibril, “Verily Allah loves the A, then love him.” Then Jibril loves him. Then Gabriel announces to all the inhabitants of the heavens, “Verily Allah loves the A, then love him.” Eventually, the inhabitants of the heavens loved him. Then he was made acceptable to the inhabitants of the earth. (HR Bukhari 7485 and HR Ahmad 8500)
5. Seek the pleasure of Allah
In Islam, you have never been taught the use of black magic or science that can publish an aura to influence others or invite the attention of others. However, you are motivated to be Allah’s devout servant in order to seek Allah’s approval. If Allah has approved your goodness, then Allah will love you. Then Allah will make people easily love you.
Who sought the pleasure of Allah even though hostile to society, then Allah will plead and Allah will make people be pleased with him. On the contrary, whoever seeks the good pleasure of human by invoking Allah’s wrath, Allah will be angry with him and Allah will make people angry with him. (HR Ibnu Hibban 276)
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6. Pray and ask Allah
You must always pray and ask Allah to get someone that truly loves you and never leaves you alone. In addition, your love is not prohibited by Allah and not make you become far from Allah. Instead, you will love her and Allah more.
O Allah, I plead Your love, love from your loving people, and love the charity that can lead me to love You. (HR Ahmad 22109 & Turmudzi 3543)
7. Maintain a neat appearance
Appearance is the barometer of someone’s heart. The first one your friends see is your appearance so you need to look attractive and neat then they will love you eventually. If your heart is faithful to the teachings of Islam, then your behavior also reflect a believing Muslim. Then, if your heart is in love with the Prophet Muhammad, then your lifestyle follow His guidance. Prophet always maintains His appearance when meeting with His friends and family.
“Allah is beautiful and pleased with beauty. If anyone of you (intends) to meet his friends, he should tidy himself. “ (HR Muslim)
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8. Give empathy and help someone
The nature of empathy is the ability of a person to share feel and understand what is felt and thought of others. Knowing the way of thinking and providing solutions for her if she needs will make her love you. It is because the real solution or advice you give to her is one of the signs that you empathize and care about her. Prophet SAW advised His people to always advise each other, even said that religion is advice.
And help one another in [the] righteousness and [the] piety, but (do) not help one another in [the] sin and [the] transgression. And fear Allah; indeed, Allah (is) severe (in) [the] punishment. (Al-Maidah 5:2)
9. Become a good listener
You will usually find it difficult to be empathetic to others if you are not able to be good listeners. A good listener is able and willing to listen to other people’s explanations before they act or make decisions. By listening to her story or problem, she will know that you care and make her love you more. She will be happy if there is someone that is actually beside her and accompany her when she is sharing her problem.
“Indeed, someone told me about a conversation, so I listened carefully as if I had never heard of it. And I knew it before he was born.” (Siyar A’laam An-Nubalaa 5/86)
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10. Improve self and self-introspection
People will love someone who improves himself and always tries to become a better human. You must improve self and do self-introspection whenever you have a problem and not blame the others for your own fault. This will make someone love you more because of your good personality.
Those who avoid great sins and the immoralities except the small faults; indeed, your Lord (is) vast (in) forgiveness. He (is) most knowing about you when He produced you from the earth and when you (were) fetuses in (the) wombs (of) your mothers. So (do) not ascribe purity (to) yourselves. He knows best (he) who fears. (An-Najm 53:32)
11. Become a gentle person and can control emotion
Someone will love a person who is gentle and can control his emotion. You must become this type of person because it is good so you will not do violent acts that can make people hate you. A woman also loves someone who is gentle and care about her.
“Do it gently and keep away from your enmity and vile acts, in fact, it is not gentle input in a case but he will definitely decorate it, and not in the gentle pull of a case but will make ugly”. (HR Muslim)
12. Talk and open-minded to someone
You must always talk and open-minded to someone so she will know and love you more. You should not lie and hide a secret from her. It is the foundation to believe each other and increase the love between you two.
That Allah may reward the truthful for their truth and punish the hypocrites if He wills or turn in mercy to them. Indeed, Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful. (Al-Ahzab 33:24)
More Ways to Make Someone Love You in Islam
Here is presented more ways to make someone love you in Islam
- Always keep your promise
- Never abandon her
- Make her look important to you
- Give a present or surprise
- Look confident and energetic
- Make her laugh and comfortable with you
- Give her a praise
- Spend some time with her
That’s all how to make someone love you in Islam. Hope you can become closer to someone that you love after reading this article.