Marriage is something that always be interesting to discuss, because marriage problems not only talk about human characters, behaviour, or humans right, but also involving some honourable unity called a household. Marriage is not something that considered as trivial, since in marriage there is Fiqh of Marriage and requirement of Marriage Contract or what we called Aqd.
In the perspective of Islam, marriage or getting married in month Ramadhan is the finest way and meritorious way to protect our dignity, since in the Law of Marriage it will avoid us from any prohibition and forbidden things given by Allah (SWT) to us. Therefore, our Prophet Muhammad strongly recommend to immediately hasten marriage for whom, who ready to getting married, both physically and mentally. See Also : 25 Effective Dua to Make Someone Love Us
With marriage, all the biologycal flaming within human can be completed. Meanwhile, marriage will raise up a honourable future goals to obtain descendant that will be part of worl prosperity and make it more splendour.
The Purpose of Marriage in The View of Religion (Islam)
In Qur’an surah Ar. Rum verse 30, God said that:
“So direct your face toward the religion, inclining to truth (Allah). (Adhere to) the fitrah of Allah upon which He has created (all) people. No change should there be in the creation of Allah. That is the correct religion, but most of the people do not know.”
Therefore the Responsibility of Marriage is something that highly recommended in Islam, and Islam very disliked to those who does not want to be married or celibacy behaviour. In hadith of Bukhari and Muslim, The Massenger of Allah said that :
“Is is true that all of you said here and there, all for the sake of Allah, indeed i am the most fearful and pious among all of yous. However i fasted and breaking it, i pray and i sleep and marry a woman. Therefore, whoever does not like my sunnah, then they are not my People.”
As for the purposes of marriage in Islam Shari’a are:
1. Fulfilling Human Instinct Right
Islam highly recommend for those who are capable to get married, since marriage is humanity fitrah and human instinct. If that instict not fullfiled with the right path that is by marriage or matimony, then it can drag someone into the path of Satan and make them do something that forbide by Allah such as adultery, to live together out of matrimony (unmarried cohabitation), and etc.
2. As a Strong Fortress to Human Akhlaq
In a hadith shahih which had been narrated by Akhmad, Bukhari, Muslim, Tirmidzi, Nasa’i, Darimi, Ibnu Jarud, and Baihaqi, The Messenger of Allah ever said that had a meaning as follow:
“O to all youth! Whichever of you all are capable of marriage, the marry, since marriage is more demeaning views, and more fortify the Farji (genitals). And for whom which are not capable, then he should fast (shaum), since shaum could fortify them”
From the above hadith, it can conclude that marriage is something Shari’a in Islam, where when married could avert someone from the vicious and filthy behaviours that will lowering and decreasing their dignity. It means that marriage is a strong fortress for people dignity.
The rules of marriage in Islam are a path to create a family which is the most effective way in order to prevent self-destruction of young generation both man or woman, also to avoid society chaos. [AdSense-B]
3. Upholding The Islamic Household
The sacred aim of marriage is in order to upholding the Islamic Shari’a in the household by husband and wife (couple). Therefore, it is very important for us to choose the right person befor getting married, so that later it could create a Sakinah, Mawaddah, Warahmah Family. See Also : 20 Importance of Family life in Islam
Islam also confirm the existence of thalaq (divorce) if husband and wife no longer could enforce or uphold the Islamic Shari’a in their household. However, Islam also confirm the very existence of reconciliation (re-married) if both of them are able to re-enforce the Islamic Shari’a in their household.
4. Increase The Worship to Allah SWT
Household is one of the way to worship and to give charity beside the others way of worshipping and charity where according to Islam thought of concept, life is just to serve (dedicated) and worship only for Allah SWT. See Also Importance of Faith in Islam
5. To Obtain a Descendant
On Qur’an Surah An-Nahl Verse 72, Allah gave a commandment which means as follow:
“And Allah has made for you from yourselves mates (husband and wife) and has made you from your mates sons and grandchildren and has provided for you from the good things. Then in falsehood do they believe and in the favor of Allah they disbelieve?”
From the above verse translation it can concluded that in the way of Islam the purposes of marriage is to obtain a good descendants so that later it will create a high quality of generation. In order that it could uphold the Shari’a of Islam in the household, therefore an ideal couples will be needed. See Also Prayers for Getting Pregnant in Islam You can Recite
Criteria to Choose Ideal Partner in Islam
In the Islamic thought it already given about the ideal criteria to look for a partner, among others are:
Kafa’ah is the similarity and equality of level between husband and wife in marriage in order to build an Islamic household. The measurement of kafa’ah in Islamic thought can be seen by the quality of someone faith and piety also the akhlak (character).
However currently, the equality between husband and wife mostly seen or judge based on the material side, social status, and posterity. A lot of parents assuming that the ideal partner for their children are the one who had a social status, position, and the same level of posterity (based on nobility, affluence, education, and others) to their family. See Also Benefits of Equality in Islam
In Qur’an Surah Al-Hujurat Verse 13, Allah gave a commandment which means as follow:
“O mankind, indeed We have created you from male and female and made you peoples and tribes that you may know one another. The most noble of you in the sight of Allah is the most righteous of you, Indeed, Allah is Knowing and Acquainted.”
Rasulullah shallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam has said which means as follow:
“A woman is married for 4 reasons : for her wealth, noble ancestry, beauty and religion. Therefore let you choose because of the religion (Islam), because if not so, then you will be accursed.” (Hadith of Bukhari 6:123, Muslim 4:175)
- Religious (Sholeh and Sholeha)
To build a Sakinah, Mawadah, and Warahmah household then it is should be necessarily if a man looking for a religious woman to be his life partner (wife) otherwise a woman should look for a religious man too. See Also How to Choose a Woman in Islam As Life-Partner.