Islam is the miraculous way of life. It came as guidance for today and the hereafter. The teaching of Islam includes many aspects in like family for example. Family is the major foundation in the Islamic life. It is the place of individual to grow and develop. Realizing its important role in creating good generation, Islam has discussed some rules and concepts regarding to family. Therefore, we need to know some importance of family life as Muslims. Let’s find out below!
- Family Rewards Us Allah’s Paradise
Our Prophet (peace and blessing of Allah may be upon him) once told how important it is to tighten strong bond and create family. Even, those who refuse tightening strong bond through family might not enter Allah’s paradise as said below:
“The person who severs the bond of kinship will not enter Paradise.” (Bukhari)
2. Family is The First Place to Develop
Family is the first environment we find to grow up and develop. It is the place where we seek for knowledge and answers at first Family is the first place for us to learn from social etiquette principles and cooperation to how to socialize and manage things. Therefore, it is important to notice and maintain a good environment in the family.
3. Marriage and Family is The Greatest Union of All
Marriage in Islam reflects our devotion (read more dua to get married fast). Our Prophet (peace and blessing of Allah may be upon him) said that we should realize that no matter how rich and prosperous we are, it meant nothing if we had no companion with whom we share anything. Every one was born and destined to have at least one companion to spend the rest of life with. It is written in the Qur’an:
“And of His sign is this: He created for you helpmates from yourselves that you might find rest in them and created between your love and mercy”. (Qur’an, 30:21)
4. Marriage and Family Completes Our Prayers
Indeed, marriage and the family formed after that is the part of faith. Marriage actually can complete our prayers because the prayers of those who are married are better compared to those who are not. Our Prophet once told in the hadith below:
“Two rakaats of prayers offered by a married person are better than seventy-two rakats offered by one without a spouse” (Imam As-Sadiq)
5. Remember the Day of Judgement
We should remember that marriage and family should not be established only for the sake of sexual satisfaction only. It is important notice that one of the reasons why we establish marriage is to procreate children (read about prayers for getting pregnant) and raise the better generation. Our Prophet (peace and blessing of Allah may be upon him) once told:
“Marry and produce offspring so that you may multiply, because on the Day of Judgment I shall pride myself on the abundance of my miscarried children”. (Abu Bakr Ibn Murdawayyah)
6. Let’s Get Allah’s Blessings
We should not be afraid of being in poverty just because we think we are not financially rich enough to get married and establish family. Indeed, Allah is the most Greatest and Merciful for all.
“And marry those among you who are single (i.e. a man who has no wife and the woman who has no husband) and (also marry) the Salihoon (pious, fit and capable ones) of your (male) slaves and maid-servants (female slaves). If they be poor, Allah will enrich them out of His Bounty. And Allah is All-Sufficient for His creatures needs, All-Knowing (about the state of the people)” (Qur’an, 24:32)
7. Islam Doesn’t Recommend Sharing House
“There is no blame upon . . . yourselves that ye eat ( without asking permission) in your own houses or the houses of your fathers, or houses of your mothers, or the houses of your brothers, or the houses of your sisters, or the houses of your fathers’ brothers, or the houses of your fathers’ sisters, or the houses of your mothers’ brothers or the houses of your mothers’ sisters, or in houses of which the keys are in your possession, or in the house of a friend of yours . . .”(Qur’an, 24: 61)
The ayah above clearly told us that Islam persuades us to have separate house for parents, brothers, sisters, and another family members to prevent the domestic and financial burdens. Besides that, it also maintains the harmony and relationship since the joint-family system, with all of family members living together can possibly occur more conflicts. The conflicts might happen due to the difference mindset or habit of each member.
8. Choose a Good Spouse for The Sake of Family
The selection of spouse should be the concern of family as it determines the well-being of another family that will be established by the individual later on. Imam Ali (A.S) once said:
“Avoid matrimonial alliance with foolish and ignorant women, because association with them is a calamity and the child to whom they give birth would be good for nothing and worthless.”
9. Family and Children Will Keep Praying For You
When we establish children and procreate children, we need to raise them as good as possible. Raising our children to be grateful and devoted will reward us nothing more than long-lasting prayers till our death. The obedience of our children will help us through the hereafter.
“Your Lord has decreed: Do not worship any but Him; Be good to your parents; and should both or any one of them attain old age with you, do not say to them even “fie” neither chide them, but speak to them with respect, and be humble and tender to them and say: “Lord, show mercy to them as they nurtured me when I was small.” (Qur’an, 17:23-24).
10. Family is The Place for Complement
Family really completes the life of individuals. Family is not the place to compete either for husband and wife, or for brother and sister. Family is the place where we can find someone to support and maintain a good environment. The ayah of Qur’an told us below:
“Husbands are the protectors and maintainers of their wives because God has given the one more strength than the other, and because they support them from their means.” (Qur’an, 4:34).
Besides those importance of family mentioned above, there are still some importance we should acknowledge regarding to the family life in Islam. Here they are:
- Establishing family through marriage is the tradition of our Prophet (peace and blessing of Allah may be upon him)
- Choose a life partner to establish family who has a good moral
- Pray to Allah whenever there comes problem in a family
- Maintain good relationship with each member of family through gathering or vacation
- Establishing family is the greatest responsibility to take
- Establishing family demand us not only to be financially prepared, yet also mentally indeed
- Affinity of each family of couples will help the union stronger
- Even though we are married, we still have our rights as individuals
- Don’t seek comfort into other family whenever we have obstacles
- Maintain the care and welfare of children in family as possible as we could
- Concern of the rights of our children
- Be forgiving to each member of family for the sake of good
Finally there are some importance of family life in Islam that we need to know. By knowing about that fact, I hope we can start a better relationship and try to tighten our bond with the family of us. As it is actually such a good deed filled with so much blessings from Allah! May we always stay grateful and awesome!