15 Virtues of Good Manners in Islam
We often hear a wise saying “Being a good person but being a good person is more important”, the person we think is good is not necessarily good in others, so many people we consider less good can be good in others.
Therefore we can satisfy and please everyone to like us, even if we force everyone to please us we will undoubtedly let it and this tiredness will turn us into a mad man. Quit the job that makes this to please everyone. Read more about Virtues of Getting Married in Islam
Prophet Muhammad alone as the best man in the world, if there is a better word than polite then cleanse our prophet.
But what happens, there are those who say forcibly as a liar, a sorcerer, a mad poet, a man who comes out of the teachings of his ancestors and even driven from his hometown and get threats from his disobedient people.
To Allah Almighty it is easy to grant His mercy to whomever He wishes, especially to those fighters of goodness, this is all because His grace is so vast for His servants who are fond of goodness and change towards which is more meaningful in accordance with the content of the content of the Qur’an that Allah Ta’ala made in some verses.
- Do Good to Parents
Doing good to the elderly is a practice of virtue advocated in the religion of Islam.
Maintaining good manners of speech and attitude are some examples of doing good to an older person, especially our own parents. Read more about Virtues of Feeding The Poor in Islam
Among the verses of the Qur’an and his explanation that enjoin Muslims to do good and serve their parents is as follows,
و اعبدوا الله و لا تشركوا به شيئا و بالوالدين إحسانا و بذى القربى و اليتامى و المساكين و الجار ذى القربى و الجار الجنب و الصاحب بالجنب و ابن السبيل و ما ملكت أيمانكم إن الله لا يحب من كان مختالا فخورا
“And worship you to God, and associate not with him anything. Do good to two parents, relatives, orphans, poor people, close neighbors and distant neighbors and colleagues, Ibn Sabil and servant your sahaya. Allah does not love those who are proud and proud”. [QS an-Nisa ‘/ 4: 36].
The nature of tolerance to all differences in social life is one form of good deeds that we can do as they relate to everyday life.
قل ياأيها الكافرون # ولا أنتم عابدون ما اعبد # ولا أنا عابد ما عبدتم # ولا أنتم عابدون ما اعبد # لكم دينكم ولي دين
“O disbelievers. I will not worship what you worship. And you are not a worshiper of God whom I worship. And I have never been a worshiper of what you worship. And you have never been a worshiper of God whom I worship. For you your religion, and for me, my religion”. (Q.S. al-Kafirun: 1-6).
- Forgive Each Other
Sometimes it is difficult for us to forgive someone who has made a mistake that we think can not be forgiven. But Allah Subhanahu wa ta’ala is God who likes peace which one of them is to forgive each other. with sincerity, insha Allah we will be given way to find answers from the results of our good deeds.
- Help Each Other
Living with many people is proof that we are not alone in this world and must help each other out. By helping or helping each other, can make us have many friends to just talk or learn about religion, social and other good things. Read more about Virtues of Night Lailatul Qadr
- Not Hurt Anyone Else
Mutual feelings of each other and tolerance is a form of our actions not to harm or hurt both feelings and physical to others. This good deed aims for peaceful social life. In order to occur tranquility among social.
- Avoid Hostility
As much as possible we are not to provoke enmity or enlarge a person’s anger. face well and sincerity also patience. Always face the bad with good, insha Allah will produce good result to be together. Read more about How to Choose a Leader in Islam
- Abandoning The Works of Polytheists
Idolatry is an act that is hated by Allah Subhanahu wa ta’ala. the act of associating God is a despicable act that we should avoid as a moslem.
إن الله لا يغفر أن يشرك به ويغفر ما دون ذلك لمن يشاإ
“Verily, the Lord will not forgive the sin of shirk, and He forgives all other sins (shirk), for whom He will do it.” (Surah An Nisa: 48 and 116).
- Keep The Commandments of God
Keeping God’s commandments and avoiding his prohibitions is a form of good deeds we can do. By staying close to God, we can easily be instructed to find a way out when in trouble.
Rasulullah shallallahu alaihi wa sallam in his khutbah said:
أيها الناس, قد فرض الله عليكم الحج فحجوا. فقال رجل: أكل عام, يا رسول الله? فسكت. حتى قالها ثلاثا. فقال رسول الله : لو قلت: نعم لوجبت ولما استطعتم. ثم قال: ذروني ما تركتكم, فإنما هلك من كان قبلكم بكثرة سؤالهم واختلافهم على أنبيائهم, فإذا أمرتكم بشيء فأتوا منه ما استطعتم, وإذا نهيتكم عن شيء فدعوه.
“O mankind, verily Allah has obliged the Hajj to you, so have mercy”. Someone said, “Is it every year, O Messenger of God?” So he kept silent until he repeated it three times, then the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam said, “If I say yes, it will be obligatory, and you will not be able to,” and then he said, “Leave me to what I leave it to you. Indeed the people before you perish because of their question and their opposition to their prophets. If I order something to you, do as much as you can. And if I forbid you, leave it “. 
- Not Gossiping
A person’s habit of gossiping is a bad deed. Tap from gossip can become a grant and bad appears slander. Because slander is worse than murder.
The verse that speaks of “the more cruel slander of murder” is,
واقتلوهم حيث ثقفتموهم وأخرجوهم من حيث أخرجوكم والفتنة أشد من القتل ولا تقاتلوهم عند المسجد الحرام حتى يقاتلوكم فيه فإن قاتلوكم فاقتلوهم كذلك جزاء الكافرين
“And slay them wherever you find them, and drive them out from where they have driven you (Mecca); and the slander is greater the danger of murder, and do not fight them in the Grand Mosque unless they fight you in that place. If they fight you (in that place), then kill them. So reward the disbelievers. “(Surat Al-Baqarah : 191)
- Giving Charity
mutual giving to fellow human beings is one form of commendable deeds that can help us to add a good reward.
وأنفقوا في سبيل الله ولا التهلكة
“And spend (your treasures) in the way of Allah, and do not throw yourself into destruction, and do good, for Allah loves those who do good”.(Surah Al-Baqarah : 195)
- Keep The Word Spoken
Good and polite speech is one form of good deeds taught in Islam. In speaking we also need to pay attention to the condition and state of the other person. Lest we offend the other person’s feelings or wrong words.
- Visiting a Sick Neighbor
It is not good for a moslem to let his neighbor go hungry or not visit him when he is ill.
Rasulullah sallallaahu’alaihi wasallam said:
من كان يؤمن بالله واليوم الآخر فليكرم جاره
“Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, should he honor his neighbor” (Narrated by Bukhari 5589, Muslim 70)
- Not Splurging
Islam teaches to live simple and not exaggeration, because Allah Subhanahu wa ta’ala does not like the exaggeration. Simple living with simple dress, simple attitude, simple talk and lifestyle is a simple life.
- Provide a Good Religious Education
Religious education applied since childhood can be easily remembered by children. Then you should teach religious education as early as possible.
- Not Wasting The Time
Wasting time is a wasteful attitude that can have a negative impact on us. As much as possible to be able to manage the time in such a way as to be able to carry out all the affairs smoothly.
Islamic law is not fully applicable in everyday life in our environment considering that in society there are various tribes and adherents of religions that have their own rules and every human being must tolerate.
But in reality Islamic law proved effective to minimize the original deviation done uniformly. Islamic law applied in everyday life is the shari’a outline that contains instructions to carry out various obligations and in attitude.
please note that Islam is able to manage all aspects of human life from the smallest to the big things, from the simplest to the most complicated. Follow the law (syariat) of Islam in daily life to always be in His blessing