As a wife, we should not forget that a mother in law has bestowed for our husband. She has been pregnant our husbad during 9 months.
She loved, took care and thought our husband until they become self-reliant. So that, a mother in law is our mother, too.
She is a grandmother from our children. We should treat her well, so she will treat us well, too. If there is rude to you, you should be patient and steadfast, Insha Allah you will get rewards from Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta’ala.
So that as a wife, we should know how to treat our mother in law in Islam. And in this chance, this article will discuss about that below. Please check them out.
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How to Treat Your Mother in Law in Islam
- Love her with your whole heart
As a wife from her son, we should love her as love our mother. By loving her, we will do the best for her sincerely and insha Allah , we will be not included to unlucky people as it is mentioned in the word of Rasulullah shallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam,
رَغِمَ أَنْفُ، ثُمَّ رَغِمَ أَنْفُ، ثُمَّ رَغِمَ أَنْفُ، مَنْ أَدْرَكَ أَبَوَيْهِ عِنْدَ الْكِبَرِ أَحَدُهُمَا أَوْ كِلَيْهِمَا، فَلَمْ يَدْخُلِ الْجَنَّةَ
“Too bad, too bad, too bad, people who get one or two elderly parents, but he does not enter to the Heaven because of it.” (Narrated by Muslim)
- Dedicate to her
Dedicating to your mother in law is obligatory. Because she is your mother, too. When you get married, you do not only want your partner life, but you should also close to his big family. So automatically, you should become your husband parents as your parents, too.
A wife must be able to address her husband become a good son to his parents. Do not let a wife be the cause of entering your husband to the Hell. Because he has took priority over his parents, especially his mother.
- Take care her
Maybe, Our mother in law has been old and it is normal, if her health is not good. So as daughter in law, we should take care her health as we take care the health of our parents, such as cooking food that is good for her health and help her if she needs our help.
- Accept her as the best woman
As a daughter in law, we should look the view of our mother in law as a goodness although you and her have a different opinion. We have to imagine if we are in her position who accidentally must accept a stranger before.
Then you come into her life and she must accept you with all problems that can exist by arriving a daughter in law. Indeed, a mother in law is often forced to understand her daughter in law with all of her characteristic and her background. So that, we have to show our empathy to her. [AdSense-B]
- Realize that a mother in law is a part of you
As a daughter in law, we should realize that our mother in law has been a part of our lives in the world and the Hereafter. She can be a good factor or a bad factor for us in this world and the Hereafter. But it depend on our behavior to her.
If we treat her well, then she will be a good factor in our lives. If not, so instead she will be a bad factor for us. Na’udzubillah hi min dzalik.
- Bond a good communication with her
Invite her to talk about ways to educate children, because she has got the same thing. Although she does not intervene in your care. But make her feel useful. Because that thing will make your mother in law happy. [AdSense-A]
- Give something to her
As a daughter in law, we must try to be independent after we get married. If we can, we should give something to our mother in law. Although she does not ask something, but she will be happy if her children give a gift to her.
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- Be nice to her
Because you have considered her as your mother, then you should be nice to her. Do not speak harshly to her. But you should speak well and make her happy as it is explained in the Al-Qur’an below :
“And your Lord has decreed that you not worship except Him, and ti parents, good treatment. Whether one or both of them reach gold age [while] with you, say not to them [so much as], “uff”, and do not repel them bbut speak to them a noble word.“ (Q.S. Al-Isra’ : 23)
- Provide her if you have rizq
There is no an obligation for a wife to provide her mother in law. But it is no problem, if she want to help her mother in law if you have a lot of rizq.
However, the obligation of son to his mother is providing her. So, as a wife, we have to understand it. Insha Allah, your rizq will be more enlarged by Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta’ala.
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- Honor her
By honoring your mother in law, you will not do bad to them. So, insha Allah your mother in law will be also more love you. Because a human is rated from two thing, they are her religion and her akhlaq.
- Let your husband dedicate to his mother
Do not be jealous, if your husband is very love his mother. Remember, her position is higher than you. Maybe, he often give your mother in law money or gifts. Let he do it. As long as your husband still treat you well. It is no problem, right?
From Abdullah bin ‘Amru r.a. said, Rasulullah saw said :
The willing of Allah depends on the willing of parents and the anger of Allah depends on the anger of parents.”
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- Be friendly with her
Although your mother in law sometimes hurts our heart, but we must be friendly to her. By being friendly with her, your mother in law will be shy and she will be not fussy again with us.
If she is still fussy, we should be patient because insha Allah, Allah SWT will give rewards to us for our patience.
See also : Patience in Islam
- Keep hospitality well with her
Maybe, your house is far from you mother in law. But do not let your hospitality to her disconnected. Try to call her regularly, say hi to her and also give attention to her.
- Spend your time to do a congregation prayer with her
It is not explained again how many benefits that we can get from a congregation prayer. If we can spend our time to do a congregation prayer with our mother in law, insha Allah, the harmony between mother in law and you will be connected well.
Thus the article about 14 how to treat your mother in law in Islam. Hopefully, this article can help you to keep your harmony to your mother in law. Amen.