In Islam, marriage is a sacred bond not only between human but also to Allah SWT as the Creator of the Universe. Marriage is highly important in Islam that it considered as half of the religion. But not everything going smoothly as planned, so doesn’t marriage. Many marriages in the modern times ended in divorce, even between Islamic marriage.
As narrated by Abdullah ibn Umar, the Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “Of all the lawful acts the most detestable to Allah is divorce.”
From the hadith above, it is clear that Allah SWT Himself loathed divorce, which means breaking up a sacred tie that two Muslims have made earlier. There are good reasons as to why Allah SWT hates divorce. Too many negative effects of divorce in Islam and it causes negative impacts, especially for children.
Here are some of the negative effects of divorce in Islam:
- Causing the Wrath of Allah SWT
If there are something Allah SWT hates the most, it’s being divorce as said on the hadith above. While marriage is a sacred thing in Islam, breaking cause many negative impacts since husband and wives can do countless good deeds through the marriage. See also Importance of Marriage in Islam
As narrated by Muharib, the Prophet said, “Allah did not make anything lawful more abominable to Him than divorce.”
- Losing a Way to Jannah
For a wife, being obedient to her husband is the fastest way to reach Jannah, and as for husband, being kind and capable to lead the wife and the whole family, he will be able to reach Jannah. Thus, two Muslims have lost their way to Jannah by getting divorce. It’s why divorce should be prevented as much as possible.
- Causing the Discord in the Family
Islam encourages all Muslims to maintain a good relationship with their families, and whoever keeping the ties of kinship will be hugely blesses by Allah SWT. Divorce may cause discord in the family that cause them to fall apart. This is surely not a thing Allah SWT likes. See also Importance of Good Relations in Islam
Negative Effects of Divorce for Children
The one who suffer the most from divorce is the children. Parents’ divorce could affect them until they grow up. Here are the negative effects of divorce for children.
- Lose Focus in the Activity
As young children are dependent to their parents more than anything, the divorce make them easily lose their focus in the activity. They often become anxious, tense, and nervous, find it difficult to concentrate on almost everything, especially their study. They will also lose interest on activities that they usually found exciting.
- Stressing the Child
Many children unconsciously blame themselves for their parents’ divorce and sensing the responsibilities to mend the relationship again. However, this may cause pressure on them that lead to negative thoughts and them having nightmares. See also How to Prevent Nightmares in Islam
- Causing a Severe Moodswing
Children no longer feel warmth and happiness due to their parents’ divorce. Soon they will develop a severe moodswing that affects their interaction with other people. They tend to withdraw themselves from the society and opted not to talk to anyone.
- Acute Sadness
If a child is old enough to understand what divorce mean, they will be in an acute sadness after finding out that one of their parents no longer stay in the same house with the. This may cause early depression to them as a long term manifestation of the sadness. See also Ways to Overcome Depression In Islam
- Losing Emotional Support
The biggest lose of broken home children whose parents are divorce is the loss of emotional support. Things could be worse when the children were looked after one of the parent without having access to communicate with the other.
- Behavioral Problems
Another negative effects of divorce that leave a bad impact on children is behavioral problems possibly developed by them. They may grow up to be an emotional person with antisocial tendencies, easy to lose their temper, and assaulting behavior. At the most extreme side, they may become a social misfit. See also Basic Manners in Islam
- Trust Issues in a Relationship
It it true that children whose parents were divorced have a trust issue in a relationship. It will be hard for them to believe that love exist, which end up rather not getting married than having to get divorce in the future. Moreover when the divorce involving several conflicts under the children’s knowledge.
- Prone to Abuse
Every children have their own way to vent their anger and sadness towards the parents’ divorce. Their abusive behavior could be one of them. Things can be worse when they also develop tendency to have drugs when they get older. See also How to Choose a Husband in Islam
- Mental Depression
Depression knows no age. Even a young children may suffer depression when they feel an extreme heartbreak due to their parents’ divorce. The risk of mental depression is higher to a child who witness the divorce and understand what does it mean. According to many conducted research, parents’ divorce is one contributing factor to someone who has a bipolar disorder.
- Educational Effects
Another negative effects of divorce to a child is drop to their school grades. A broken home child whose parents were divorced lose a huge emotional support since they found that their house is no longer complete. It affects their ability to focus on school, which lead to the drop of the grades. While education is one of the most important thing for a child to develop a brighter future, it shouldn’t be happen to their education.
From the explanation above, it is clear that there are too many negative effects of divorce in Islam. As a good Muslims, let’s do our best to avoid divorce, for the sake of the children and the marriage itself.