The rights of husband upon the wife is one of the glory rights that must be done by a woman. Even, the rights of husband upon his wife is bigger than the rights of wife upon her husband. It is based on the word of Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta’ala below :
وَلَهُنَّ مِثْلُ الَّذِي عَلَيْهِنَّ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ وَلِلرِّجَالِ عَلَيْهِنَّ دَرَجَةٌ
“And due to the wives is similar to what is expected of them, according to what is reasonable. But the men have a degree over them [in responsibility and authority]. And Allah is Exalted in Might and Wise.” (Q.S. Al-Baqarah : 228)
Al-Jashash said : Allah Ta’ala informs in this verse, every couple (husband and wife) has rights upon their partner. And the husband is specialized with the rights upon his wife that are not owned his wife upon himself.”
So, what are the rights of husband upon the wife in Islam? Let us explain them for you.
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The Rights of Husband upon Wife in Islam
There are some rights of husband upon his wife that as a wife, you should fulfill his rights to get blessings of Allah Subhanallahu Wa Ta’ala. Here they are
- Be obeyed his wife in goodness
The wife must obey her husband in the matter of goodness. But if she feels that she cannot do it, she can refuse it. As the word of Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta’ala below :
“But if they obey you [once more], seek no means against them.” (Q.S. An-Nisa : 34)
Rasulullah saw said, “If I may command someone for prostrating to other, then I will command a wife to prostate to her husband.” (Narrated by At-Tirmidzi)
- A wife must take care the treasure of her husband
The second right, a wife must take care the treasure of husband, his honor and she may not go out from her house except she gets the permission of her husband. As the word of Allah in Qur’an Surah An-Nisa verse 34, which reads :
“So righteous women are devoutly obedient, guarding in [the husband’s] absence what Allah would have them guard.”
- Ready to serve her husband in the matter of bed
It is included the rights of husband upon his wife after the husband gave a dowry from his marriage. Then if a wife refuses to serve her husband, then she has done a big sin, except she has been udzur syar’i like menstruation, obligatory fasting, sick and others.
From Abu Hurairah r.a., Rasulullah saw said,
“If a husband invites his wife to the bed (for doing jima’), then she refuses, so her husband angers to her at that night, then angels damn her until morning.” (Narrated by Muttafaq ‘Alaih)
- Do not enter someone to her house
A wife may not enter someone to her house, if her husband does not like that person. Or in other word, she must get a permission from her husband, if there is a guest in their home. Between the rights of husband upon the wife, do not bring someone who is hated by her husband into their home.
From Abu Hurairah r.a., Rasulullah saw said,
“It is haram for women to fast while there is her husband by her side except he allows. A wife also does not enter someone to her house except by her husband’s permission. And the treasure that she provides does not by his command, then a half of that reward is given for her husband.” (Narrated Al-Bukhari)
- Do not go out from home without husband’s permission
Syafi’iyah and Hanabilah said,
“She (wife) does not go out to visit her father who is sick except by husband’s permission. He has a right to forbid his wife from that thing; because the obedience to husband is obligatory, then she must not leave this obligatory matter to do something that is not obligatory.”
- Discipline her wife
A husband has a right to discipline her wife when she does not obey to his command by a good way. Because, Allah Ta’ala has command to discipline a woman by hajr (throw ou from her bed) and hit while she does not want to obey.
The word of Allah Subahanahu Wa Ta’ala said,
“But those [wives] from whom you fear arrogance – [first] advise them; [then if they persist], forsake them in bed; and [finally], strike them.” (Q.S. An-Nisa : 34)
- A wife attends to her husband
Syaikhul Islam Ibn Taimiyah explained, that a wife must help her husband in the way of ma’ruf. This is according to the situation and condition demand. The reverence of rural women is different with the reverence of city women, the reverence of strong women is different with the reverence of weak women.” (Al-Fatawa al-Kubra : 4/561)
- If a wife want to do sunnah fasting, she must get her husband’s permission
If a wife wants to do Ramadan fasting, she does not need husband’s permission because the law of Ramadan fasting is obligatory, haram if you are left it without udzur syar’i. If her husband forbids her, she may not obey him. Because we may not obey others to do vice to Al-Khaliq.
But if the wife wants to do sunnah fasting, she must ask a permission from her husband. Because Rasulullah said,
“A wife must not do fasting (sunnah) while her husband is in his side except by the permission of her husband.” (Narrated by Al-Bukhari number 5195 and Muslim number 1026)
- Thankful upon husband’s kindness
A wife must be clever to thankful upon her husband’s kindness. If not, she will face with the treat of Hell. After Rasulullah saw finished Kusuf prayer, he told about the Heaven and the Hell :
“And I see the Hell. I have seen the view like this day. And I see the majority of its residence is women.” They asked, “Why are the majority of Hells residence women, O Rasulullah?” He said, “It is caused their kufur.” There was asking to him : “Are those women kufur to Allah?” He answered : “(No, but) they kufur to their husband and the kindness of their husband. If you do good deeds to one of them in a period, then someday he saw you that there is something in you, then he will said : ‘I have never seen the kindness from you’.” (Narrated Al-Bukhari number 5197 and Muslim number 2106)
- Must get husband’s permission to give shadaqah
Rasulullah saw said,
“The wife must not give food to others from her house without her husband’s permission, except perishable food. If he give food from husband’s permission, then she gets rewards like her husband’s rewards, and if she gives food without husband’s permission, then her husband gets rewards, while the wife gets sins.”
- A man is a leader of woman
Based on the tafsir of Ibn Katsir, a man is a leader of woman. Its means that a husband is a leader, a head, a judge and a teacher if she is wrong.
- Serve and manage his home
A wife has an obligation to manage her home and do all homework. She have to give comfort to her husband. So, he will be happy to live there.
- Honor his family
The obedience of a woman is addressed to her husband, while the obedience of a husband is addressed to his parents. Because of that, a wife must threat his family well and help her husband to devote, especially to his mother.
Thus the article about 13 rights of husband upon the wife in Islam. Hopefully, every wife can do his rights well. So that, they can get the love of Allah Subahanallahu Wa Ta’ala, too. Amen.
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