Marriage is a sacred bond in Islam that it considered as half of the religion. Through the marriage, husband and wife are able to do as many good deeds as they can to help them become better Muslims as well as help them in the afterlife later. However, the life in marriage is far from easy. In fact, it’s very fragile and Satan never miss a chance to shake it and even break it apart.
Unfortunately marriage often ends by divorce. Allah SWT loathe divorce the most and command every Muslim couple to stay away from it as much as possible. Divorce is the result of a badly managed relationship between husband and wife. To avoid divorce, it should be prevented in many ways.
“The most hated thing before Allah is divorce” – Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) as narrated by Mu’arrif ibn Wasil
Here are the ways how to prevent divorce in Islam:
1. Doing Husband and Wife Duty
Husband and wife has their own respective duty in the family. To keep it harmonized and happy, each other must be aware of their own duty. When the husband is the one earning money out there and the wife is asked to stay at home, then she should do all her best to support her husband by creating a happy atmosphere at home.
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2. Understand Each Other Well
Understanding seems to be a simple thing but it require a huge effort. Understanding means we have to aware to their situations. For example when our husband goes to work, he may meet some other woman who smiles at him a lot. We have to trust our husband and not making a fuss about it. The same goes for the husband, he must understand that taking care of the family is not easy, so she could be tired at times.
3. Taking Care Each Other Equally
Love is care. The best ways how to prevent divorce in Islam is by showing love to each other, Husband and wife should take care of their partner. When the husband is tired from work, serve him dinner or massage him for a while. And when the husband is off during the weekend, he can take turn taking care of the children and give his wife time to rest. This may seems simple but it affect the marriage in a positive way.
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4. Avoid Arguments As Much As Possible
Communication is the most important thing in marriage. But often we end up having arguments with our partner. Do our best not to have arguments with them. Talk everything in a calm manner and solve it without having to argue.
5. Settle the Arguments Before Sleep
No matter how much effort we have put to avoid the arguments, it sometimes unavoidable in a marriage. If we have a argument with our husband or wife, don’t let it last for a long time. Settle the arguments on the very same day it happens. Don’t go to sleep while you’re still arguing with each other. A long time arguments is the biggest cause of divorce.
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6. Keep the Expectations Low
We often feel disappointed to our partners because they are not who we expect them to be. Actually, it’s wrong for us to set a high expectations for them since they’re also human just like us. Expect only to Allah SWT because He is the one who never let us down.
7. Love Each Other for Who They are
How to have our expectation to our partner low? It’s to love them for the way they really are. We have to be aware of the fact that they’re only human who makes mistakes and far from perfect. This way we won’t be easily disappointed in a marriage.
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8. Don’t Talk About Family Matters to Anyone
What happen in your family should be kept a secret, including to your own family. Never talk to them about the recent arguments you have with your partner or their negative traits. It will be a catastrophe for the marriage when third party takes part in it.
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9. Give Them Their Own Space
Marriage means we have to spend 24/7 with the same person for the rest of our lives. No wonder arguments happen and we get bored sometimes. The key to prevent boredom in marriage is giving space to each other. Let our partner have fun on their own at times.
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10. Treat Each Other with Kindness
Be kind to your spouse and love them the best way you can. It may seems simple but your kindness could be the biggest reason why your husband or wife want to stay forever with you. They feel safe and comfortable for your kindness.
More Ways to Prevent Divorce in Islam
- Don’t do harm to each other
- Fulfill the rights of each other
- Not forgetting the obligations
- Spend quality times together.
Having a family is one of the best thing a Muslim could have. Our family is the one who can bring us closer to Jannah while giving us a happy life in the world. To make a happy family, we should make our marriage happy first. We must do everything needed to prevent divorce in our marriage.
Not only Allah SWT hates divorce so much, but it brings our life down and taken away the happiness from us. It’s not easy to recover from marriage. We could also become traumatized over the failure and end up not getting married again. Practice all the ways how to prevent divorce in Islam when our marriage face problems.