“Women are one half of society which gives birth to the other half so it is as if they are the entire society.” – Ibn Qayyim al Jawziyyah
Whoever born as a woman should be really grateful. Women hold a very important role in Islam, as they produce offspring who will continue the existence of Islam in the world. Thus, a woman should be a good girl ever since she was young. How to become a good girl in Islam?
More than just a religion, Islam provides holistic way of living, including which manner should be have and which shouldn’t. So if you want to be a good girl according to Islam, there are certain things you must do and others that you must avoid at all cost. Becoming a good girl is very challenging yet beneficial for your life.
Here are some ways to become a good girl in Islam.
1. Be a Devoted Muslim
To become a good girl, you have to start as a good Muslim. Do prayers on time, reading the Quran, and following the Prophet’s sunnah are how to do it. You don’t have to make yourself perfect, such as performing tahajjud everyday, but make sure you improve as the days pass.
The Prophet (peace be upon him) said,
“He who loves my Sunnah has loved me, and he who loves me will be with me in Paradise.” (Tirmidhi)
2. Have Respect to Your Parents
Islam encourages Muslim to have a good relationship with his parents and family. Be kind to your parents, love them as much as you can. A good manner to parents is one of the best deed in Islam a Muslim can do.
As the Prophet (peace be upon him) said,
“Heaven lies under the feet of your mother.” (Ahmad Nasa’i)
3. Surround Yourself with Good Company
You are who your friends are. Friends have a big influence in your life, so that having good friends will make you a good person. Make sure your friends are those who always remind you of Allah SWT, making you a better person and a better Muslim every other day. Also read How to Choose Good Friends in Islam
4. Go to the Mosque for Praying
If you have time and capable of doing it, perform congregational prayer in the mosque. The virtues is multiplied and you will be able to gain more blessing then praying alone. You will meet a lot of people who will help you to understand about Islam better and share their knowledge and experience to make you a better person as well.
The Prophet (peace be upon him) said,
“The person who receives the greatest reward for the Salah is one who lives the farthest and has the farthest to walk.” (Bukhari & Muslim)
5. Have a Sincere Intention
Everything depends on the intention. So that if you want to be a good girl, make sure you have set your intention right. You want to be a better person, you want to make your parents proud, and you want to gain as many blessing as possible from Allah SWT. If you start everything with the right intention, your acts and deeds will result in a good way and make you a better Muslim.
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6. Spend Your Time Wisely
In the given time you have everyday, make sure you make the most of it. Spend your time by growing and developing yourself. Attend courses and other workshop to improve your spirituality, make sure every hour passed is very well spent. Don’t waste any second of your time since you will never have it back. Also read Tips for Time Management in Islam
7. Seek Knowledge
A woman should never stop seeking knowledge since there is a saying that educate a woman means you educate a nation. Seek for courses and deepen your knowledge is one way how to become a good girl in Islam. There are many online courses you can take nowadays. Pick one that suits you the most and improve yourself for a better.
8. Plan Everything You Do
A good girl always have many good things to do ahead. She makes sure that everything she does make her productive. It’s good to plan everything beforehand, such as making a to-do list at the beginning of the day so that you know what things to do that day and make sure it’s all positive for her growth. Also read Ways How to Become Positive in Islam
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9. Reflect On Yourself
Nobody was born perfect. In fact, we have many imperfections and making flaws day by day. Having a self reflect regularly is important for someone who wish to become a better version of themselves. Don’t forget to always reflect on yourself, noting one by one in which part you should be better and which to improve. Don’t hesitate to ask for feedback from your closest person such as your family and friends.
10. Do Your Best in Everything
The real Muslimah always give her all in everything she does. Take example from our mother Khadijah who was a successful businesswoman. Being a woman didn’t stop her to become successful on her own an all her hard work were paid when she married the best human ever lived on Earth, Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him). Also read How To Be Successful in Business in Islam
11. Be Helpful to Others
Do as many good deeds as you can by helping others and being useful to other people. Helping people can be done through various things such as giving charity, consoling them when they’re in trouble, on listening to their story. You can also help people by giving out useful information the may need.
12. Have Faith in Allah SWT
While you are trying to become a good girl, some obstacles must be barging in your way. Have faith that Allah is always with you and He will help you to get through it.
So those are all the ways how to be a good girl in Islam. Ask for Allah’s help so that He will make your way to be a good girl so much more easier.