Marriage is one of command from Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta’ala. It is also advised by Rasulullah Shallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam. As we know, he wants to be proud the amount of his people in the Hereafter.
So, as a good Moslems we should follow his advice, teach and educate our descendants to be sholeh and sholeha children.
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In this chance, this article will discuss about some things to look for in marriage in Islam. Here they are
- As a worship and closer to Allah SWT
In a marriage, there are many worships if it is done sincerely. As Ibn Abbas said : “Marry because (indeed) one day in marriage is better that the worship of a thousand years.” . Marriage is one of worships that is highly recommended by Rasulullah Shallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam. It is also a form of sadaqah and it will bring you rewards.
Rasulullah Shallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam said : “And in the genitals (one of you) is shadaqah. They said : O Rasulullah, will we get compensations if one of us come to our sex? Rasulullah answered : Let’s see, if that sex is distributed to the haram place, will he get a sin? They answered : Yes. Rasulullah said : Similarly if someone distributes his sex to the halal place, then he will get a reward.” (Narrated by Muslim and An-Nasa’i)
- Perfect a half religion
Rasulullah Shallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam said : “If someone gets married, then he has perfected his half religion. Then be taqwa to the other half.” The same thing has been narrated by Anas r.a, he said : “If a believer gets married, then has perfected his half religion, then fear to Allah SWT for the other half.”
- Do the sunnah of Rasulullah
Indeed, Rasulullah Shallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam has given examples and advices to his people to follow his sunnah. Marriage is one of sunnah that must be watched. Because in a marriage, there are many pleasures and worships. Rasulullah saw said : “Don’t you die in the state that you have not got married.”
- Open the door of rizq
By marrying, Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta’ala will get rizq to us. So don’t be afraid about poorness. Rasulullah Shallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam said : “Find rizq in a marriage.” A hadith from Al-Baihaqi was said : “Whoever has been given rizq as sholeha wife by Allah SWT, its means He has helped him from his half religion. Then, he should be taqwa to Allah SWT in his other half religion.”
- Avoid slanders
Marriage will abstain from many slanders. Many men and women go together and hold hands, so it will cause a slander. As Moslems, keep away from that behaviors because men and women are not muhrim, except they have got married. [AdSense-B]
- Fortify ourselves from adultery
One thing to look for in marriage is fortifying ourselves from forbidden behaviors by Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta’ala. Adultery is very prohibited act and hated by Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta’ala. So, He advises His believers to get married, if they have able.
Rasulullah Shallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam also said : “O young generation, whoever between you have been able, then you should marry, because indeed marriage takes better care of genitals and maintain eyes. Whoever has been able, then he should fast, because fasting becomes a hindrance (the passion of lust).”
- To distribute biological desire
Human is created couples, need, give, perfect each others. Those are a fitra and the nature of human. So, Islam looks a marriage as one best way to distribute biological desire of human.
- Build a sakinah, mawaddah and warahmah family
Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta’ala said :
“And of His signs is that He created from yourselves mates that you may find tranquility in them; and He placed between you affection and mercy. Indeed in that are signs for a people who give thought.” (Q.S. Ar-Rum : 21)
Rasulullah Shallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam also said : “There are three maters that become my happiness, they are perfume, wife and the cooler of my heart in prayer.”
- To get descendants
Everyone hopes that they have sholeh and sholeha children who can be their diamonds. Besides that, they can help their parents in the Hereafter and pray them when they have died.
Because their dua will always flow and become a deed that never despaired. The Prophet Muhammad Shallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam said : “When a human die, then cut off his deed except three matters, they are sadaqah jariyah, useful knowledge and sholeh children who pray him.”
- Create Islamic generation
Marriage can be the means of da’wah both a husband and a wife. As it is explained before, one purpose of marriage is getting descendants.
From that marriage will be born children. Rasulullah saw has said that he will be proud with the amount of his people. As Moslems, we should build and teach our children to become his people and His believers. So that, we can enlarge Islamic generation.
- Realize the purpose of human’s creation
Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta’ala wants to realize the purpose of human’s creation. That purpose is sustaining the continuity of human without decreasing the praise of men. That purpose can be realized with marrying as the command of Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta’ala. As His word below :
“O mankind, fear your Lord, who created you from one soul and created from it its mate and dispersed from both of them many men and women. And fear Allah, through whom you ask one another and the wombs. Indeed Allah is ever, over you, an Observer.” (Q.S. An-Nisa : 1)
- To realize our love to Rasulullah saw
Our love to Rasulullah saw is a proof of faith. It pushes us to take and follow his behaviors. Of course, we want to be considered as his people who love him very much. Rasulullah Shallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam has said :
النِّكَاحُ سُنَّتِيْ فَمَنْ رَغِبَ عَنْ سُنَّتِيْ فَلَيْسَ مِنِّيْ
”The marriage is my sunnah (my way), and whoever don’t like my way, then he is not my group.” (Narrated by Ibn Majah)
Thus the article about things to look for in marriage Islam. Hopefully, we can fulfill of those purpose. Insha Allah, we always in His way and His Massenger Shallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam. Amen.
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