Getting married is one form of worship. Even a married person is also considered to have completed half of his religion. Young people who are ready to get married are encouraged to getting married without delaying it. Readiness of a person to marry not only seen from his age, but also readiness in terms of mental and cost. Read also : Dua to get married fast in islamic way
Then, a person’s mental readiness can be seen from his maturity in behaving, in his daily life, how he treats people around, and how he faces a problem and solves it. Cost is not one of the marriage inhibitors since the true marriage does not require expensive or luxurious. Only, for life after marriage requires sufficient financial readiness. As said in the following hadith :
“And marry the unmarried among you and the righteous among your male slaves and female slaves. If they should be poor, Allah will enrich them from His bounty, and Allah is all-Encompassing and Knowing.” (An-Nur : 23)
A marriage should not be something difficult. However, a lot of people nowadays complicate the marriage itself. Like a party that must be fancy and festive, the dowry must be large, even till the timing that based on either good nor bad date or day. At least some areas in our country still have that kind of faith. For example, if married on a day that is considered “less good” then his marriage will also bring bad things. Read also : Islamic rules of second marriage
In Islam, believing in such things is clear and certainly not allowed. Since, nothing can brought anything other than Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta’ala. Something will not happen without His permission. There are no bad days or dates to get married. Everything will be fine if we ask for help and leave everything over to Allah.
Yet, regarding to the time of marriage, Islam recommend a virtued times if marriage takes place at that time. When is it? A time that is recommended for marriage at that moment is the month of shawwal. Yep, a month after Ramadan in hijriah calculation. Here are some of the privileges of getting married in the month of Shawwal, among others are:
Recommended to Getting married
It is recommended to getting Married for those who have met in the Month of Shawwal. In the month of Shawwal, besides fasting for 6 days after Ramadan, there are other sunnah (a permission or disapprovals of deeds or anything based on the manner of the Prophet daily life).
The sunnah is a marriage for those who have been given a chance by Allah SWT. Here is the virtue of marrying on shawwal :
‘Aisha radiallahu’ anha the wife of the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alaihi wasallam narrated,
“Rasulullah sallallaahu ‘alaihi wasallam married me in the month of Shawwal, and built a household with me also in the month of Shawwal. Then which wives of Rasulullah sallallaahu ‘alaihi wasallam that more fortunate than i am? (transmitters) say: “Aisha Radiyallahu ‘anhaa used to marry women in the month of Shawwal”. (Hadith of Muslim)
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Dismissed the Aberrant Beliefs will be misfortune
The month of shawwal was used as a virtued time of getting married (sunnah) in order to eliminated the beliefs of the people of Arab in time of ignorance (jahiliyyah) who consider that getting married in the month of Shawwal month is a misfortune and will lead to divorce.
Therefore, the parents or guardians do not want to marry their daughters as well as the women do not want to be married at that month. [AdSense-B]
To eliminate such aberrant beliefs, marriage at the month of shawwal was made as worship, as the sunnah of the Prophet Shalallahu’alaihi Wassalam. The above hadith was used as a suggestion for getting married and married off in the month of Shawwal, breaking the misfortune beliefs or assumption about something that can lead somebody to shirk (the sin of practicing idolatry or worship anyone or anything besides Allah SWT). Read also : how to guard your heart before marriage
In this case, to think of any misfortune or unlucky thing is also called “thiyarah”, and the following law prohibits us from doing so:
Rasulullah Shalallahu ‘alaihi Wassalam explained that the misfortune assumption on something are including on Shirk. Rasulullah Shalallahu ‘alaihi Wassalam said,
“Thiyarah (misfortune assumption of something) is shirk. And none of us but (ever did it), only Allah will eliminated it with the attitude of tawakkal.” (Hadith of Ahmad, validated by Shaykh Al-Albani in pedigree of Ash-Shahihah No. 429)
However, not because married in the month of Shawwal is a virtue and then someone so “in a hurry” for getting married. Marriage has its own purposes that we have to aimed first, those purposes are fulfilling human being instinct right, a strong fortress to human akhlaq, upholding the islamic household, and increase the worship to Allah SWT. As stated in the following hadith and verses of Al-Qur’an :
“O to all youth! Whichever of you all are capable of marriage, the marry, since marriage is more demeaning views, and more fortify the Farji (genitals). And for whom which are not capable, then he should fast (shaum), since shaum could fortify them” (Hadith of Akhmad, Bukhari, Muslim, Tirmidzi, Nasa’i, Darimi, Ibnu Jarud, and Baihaqi)
“And Allah has made for you from yourselves mates (husband and wife) and has made you from your mates sons and grandchildren and has provided for you from the good things. Then in falsehood do they believe and in the favor of Allah they disbelieve?” (An-Nahl : 72)
So marriage is a very good thing, that it must be well prepared. Do not someone just think of marriage so he neglect other things that become his obligations, such as parents, education, work, and others. Read also : The purpose of marriage in Islam
Prepare and wait for those beautiful moments to come by expanding yourself on studying and improving and adding the deeds. So when the moment comes, we will embrace it with our self-worthy and readyness. Do not worry, Allah has set every single time for each human being, and for those who have been ‘permitted’ and made easy by Allah, there is no reason to postpone it and nothing better than to hasten its execution.
Hopefully it may be useful and may we always be eased by Him in every affairs of us in the world and afterlife.