Many wives are confuse when their husband ‘ask’ to them, whereas they are in periods. They do not know how to satisfy husbands during periods. Indeed, when a wife is in periods, she is forbidden to do an intercourse between husband and wife. But in Islam, there are many ways how to satisfy husband during periods.
Anas bin Malik told about Jews in the past, below :
أن اليهود كانوا إذا حاضت المرأة فيهم لم يؤاكلوها ولم يجامعوهن في البيوت فسأل الصحابة النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم فأنزل الله تعالى : ويسألونك عن المحيض قل هو أذى فاعتزلوا النساء في المحيض…
“Indeed Jews, when their wives were in periods, they did not eat with them and lived with them in one house.”
After heard that, the companions asked to Rasulullah Shalallahu’alaihi wa sallam. Then Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta’ala dropped a verse, which reads :
“And they ask you about menstruation. Say, ‘It is harm, so keep away from wives during menstruation.” (Q.S. Al-Baqarah : 222)
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Based on that verse, a husband may do anything to his wife when she is in periods, except do an intercourse. So, although a wife is in periods, she can still serve her husband. Here are ways how to satisfy husband during periods in Islam.
- Give a sweet welcome
Although you are in periods, you should welcome your husband with a sweet welcome. Your husband must be tired after working a long day.
A wife’s welcome is very good for your husband because it can decrease his tired and he will be fresh again, too. If there is a bad news, you should hold on it for a while. At least his tired has gone. Show your thanks upon his gift to you, such as make a cup of tea for him. So that. Your husband will love you more.
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- Always look pretty and use perfume at home
Although you are in periods, you should also take care yourself. You must look pretty and use perfume at home. Commonly, wives look pretty when they want to go outside. But, you should do it in your home. Because your beautiful is only for your husband, not others.
- Make your bed comfortable
A bed is the most important thing to do an intercourse or making out when you are in periods. Because of that, you should make it as the most comfortable place to be used. [AdSense-B]
- Do not anger with your husband
Sometimes, when a woman is in her periods, she will get mad very easily. But she should hold on her anger, because Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta’ala does not like a wife who anger with her husband. So, she should continue serving him. It is better, if you apologize to him upon your faults.
- Rush to meet husband’s calling
When your husband call you, you should rush to meet him. Even if you are busy, you should leave it and come to him. From Thalaq bin Ali, he said that Rasulullah Shallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam said [AdSense-A]
أَيُّمَا رَجُلٍ دَعَا زَوْجَتَهُ لِحَاجَتِهِ فَلْتَأْتِهِ وَلَوْ كَانَتْ عَلَى التَّنُّوْرِ
“A husband who call his wife to fulfill his desire, then the wife must come to him (fulfill his calling) although she was baking bread on the fufrnace.” (Narrated by Abu Hatim in his shaheeh and At-Tirmizi, he said ‘this hadith is hasan’)
- Do not do an intercourse when you are in periods
A dalil has explained that a woman is forbidden to do an intercourse when she is in periods and lochia. Besides, its law is haram, it can give a danger for her.
She will get a great pain if she did an intercourse in her periods or lochia. As the word of Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta’ala, which reads :
وَيَسْأَلُونَكَ عَنِ الْمَحِيضِ قُلْ هُوَ أَذًى فَاعْتَزِلُوا النِّسَاءَ فِي الْمَحِيضِ وَلَا تَقْرَبُوهُنَّ حَتَّى يَطْهُرْنَ فَإِذَا تَطَهَّرْنَ فَأْتُوهُنَّ مِنْ حَيْثُ أَمَرَكُمُ اللَّهُ
“And they ask you about mensteuation. Say, ‘It is haram, so keep away from wives during menstruation. And do not approach them until they are pure. And when they have purified themselves, then come to them from where Allah has ordained for you. Indeed, Allah loves those who constantly repentant and loves those who purify themselves.” (Q.S. Al-Baqarah : 222)
- Making out
The law is halal for those (A husband and a wife couple) who are making out each other in the area between navel until knee, although the wife is in periods. Based on the narration of Aisha radhiyallahu anhu, who told :
كَانَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ إِذَا حِضْتُ يَأْمُرُنِي أَنْ أَتَّزِرَ، ثُمَّ يُبَاشِرُنِي
“If I was in periods, Rasulullah Shalllallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam commanded me to used a sarong then he was making out with me.” (Narrated by Ahmad 25563, Turmudzi 132 and it is rated shaheeh by Al-Albani)
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- Let husband do everything with your body except do an intercourse
Based on Qur’an Surah Al-Baqarah verse 222, Ibny Qudamah said, When Allah only commanded to go far away the place out of blood (menstruation), this dalil said that besides that, the law is allowed. (Al-Mughni, 1/24)
In other hadith from Anas bin Malik radhiyallahu ‘anhu, the companions asked about their wives who were in periods. Rasulullah Shallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam said,
“Do everything (with your wives), except marriage.” (Narrated by Muslim)
So that, when you are in periods, you should let your husband to do everything with your body except do an intercourse with you.
- Help your husband to do masturbation with your hand
A husband should not do masturbation without help from his wife. Because Allah Subahanhu Wa Ta’ala forbids a man who has an emission of semen, as the word of Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta’ala below :
“And they who guard their private parts, except from their wives or those their right hand posses, for indeed, they will not be blamed. But whoever seeks beyond that, then those are the transgressors.” (Q.S. Al-Mu’miinun : 5 – 7)
So, although you are in periods, you should help your husband to do masturbation. Besides, he avoids from a sin, you will also get a reward from Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta’ala.
- Let your husband to kiss your body except the place out of menstruation
It still becomes a pro and contra in Ulama.
- Imam Abu Hanifah, Malik and As-Syafii agreed that this behavior is haram.
- Imam Ahmad and some ulama from hanafiyah, malikiyah and syafiiyah agreed that it is allowed.
This opinion is strengthened by An-Nawawi in Syarh Shahih Muslim (3/205)
“They asked to you about mentruation. Say, ‘It is haram’. Because of that you should go far away yourself from Al-Mahidh….”
Ibn Qudamah said, “When Allah only commands to go far away from the place out of blood (al Mahidh, this dalil that besides that, the law is allowed.” (Al-Mughni, 1/243)
- Always thankful upon anything that are given by husband
As a wife, we should always thankful upon anything that are given by husband. Moreover, when we are in periods.
We should not get mad easily when he cannot fulfill our needs. Contrarily, we should be kind with him because he has done the best for his family. We should entertain and support him. So, he can keep spirit.
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- Keep bed secret from others
An intercourse between husband and wife is their secret. So, there is no one who know, although they are those closest to you.
Thus the article about 12 how to satisfy husband during periods in Islam. Hopefully, we can be the best wife for our husbands. So that, our family can become sakinah, mawaddah and warahmah familly. Amen.