The importance of father is also not less important than the mother. In Islam’s view, the father’s role is as a priest or head of the family who is responsible both to his wife or children. The presence of a father figure is needed family, especially as breadwinner. What else is the importance of a father? Below here are the 20 Importance of a father in Islam.
1. Become a family leader
The most important role of a father is as a family leader. As a leader, the father must be a good example in his family, both wife, and his kids. This is the word of Allah in the Holy Book of Quran.
“And it is He who has made you successors upon the earth and has raised some of you above others in degrees (of rank) that He may try you through what He has given you. Indeed, your Lord is swift in the penalty; but indeed, He is Forgiving and Merciful.” (Verse 6:165)
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2. Give all the best for the child
A father has the right to do to his children. These rights are giving him a good name, educating the child, and giving a good position of theirs. Below is one of the hadith that states this.
“One came to the Prophet (PBUH) and asked, “O, The Messenger of Allah (PBUH), what is my son’s right?” The Prophet SAW replied, “Give him a good name, educate him, and give him a good position (in your heart).” (HR, Ath-Thusi)
3. Father as breadwinner
The role of father to be the backbone of the family was already written in the Holy Book of Quran. Father is obliged to support his wife and children with a lawful sustenance. Below here Allah Almighty says in the Quran.
“Men are in charge of women by (right of) what Allah has given one over the other and what they spend (for maintenance) from their wealth…….” (Verse 4: 34)
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4. As a fair husband
The others important role of father as the husband is to be a fair husband. A husband must be fair to his wife. Especially if he has more than one wife. Allah Almighty says in the Quran.
“And you will never be able to be equal (in feeling) between wives, even if you should strive (to do so). So do not incline completely (toward one) and leave another hanging. And if you amend (your affairs) and fear Allah then indeed, Allah is ever Forgiving and Merciful.” (Verse 4:129)
5. Looking for a groom for her daughter
In addition to being the backbone of the family, one important father role is to find a good groom for his daughter. Below here is one of the hadiths of the Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) narrated by Abu Daud.
“The Messenger of Allah Sallallahu ‘alaihi Wa Sallam said:” He who keeps three daughters, then he educates and marries them, and does well with them. then he will get heaven.” (Abu Daud)
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6. Father’s duty to his wife and children
The duty of a father is to feed and clothe his wife and children as well as possible. This obligation has been written in the Quran. Allah says in the Quran.
“….. Upon the father are the mother’s provision and their clothing according to what is acceptable…. ” (Verse 2:233)
7. Dad’s advice
This Quranic verse from Surah’s Joseph is proof of the prophet Joseph of the AS is a dutiful son to his father. He listened to his father’s advice not to tell him about his dream to his other brothers.
“He said (Joseph’s father), ‘O, My son, do not relate your vision to your brothers or they will contrive against you a plan. Indeed Satan to man is a manifest enemy.’” (Verse 12:5)
8. Obey your father’s words
Father is one of our parents, just like a mother, we must always be filial and obedient to them. One example is the following story of Ibrahim and his son Ishmael. Here Allah says in the Quran.
“And when he reached with him (the age of) exertion, he said, ‘O, my son indeed I have seen in a dream that I (must) sacrifice you, so see what you think.’ His son’s said, ‘O my father, do as you are commanded. You will find me if Allah wills of the steadfast’.” (Verse 37:102)
9. Pray for the father
Praying for both parents is highly recommended by our Prophet (PBUH), including to the father. This statement is already written in Quran. Allah says in Quran.
“Our Lord, forgive me and my parents and the believers the Day the account is established.” (Verse 14:41)
10. Being fully responsible
Every parent including a father should be fully responsible for the development of the child and their future. In the Hereafter, every father will be held accountable for this. Below here is the following hadith.
“Every one of you is a caretaker, and every one of you will be held accountable for what is the responsibility of his care: A leader is a keeper, he will be held accountable for what is the responsibility of his care. A man is also a keeper in his family, he will be held accountable for what is the responsibility of his care. And a woman is a keeper in her husband’s home, she will be held accountable for what is the responsibility of her care.” (HR Bukhari)
11. Reminds family member to perform prayer
In addition to providing formal education for children, the father also plays a role in teaching the religion of his children. The faith given since childhood is the foundation of religion. With religion, it is expected that children can be a pious child.
“O my son, establish prayer, enjoin what is right, forbid what is wrong, and be patient over what befalls you. Indeed, (all) that is of the matters (requiring) determination” (Verse 31:17)
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12. Honoring the daughters
Having one or two girls is a test. However, if parents can do good, give a good living and be patient with them. Then Almighty God will set a heaven for him and free them (the parents) from hell.
“A poor woman came to me with two daughters, and I gave her three dates. Then he gave for his son each a date, and a date he would put into his mouth to eat alone. But her two children asked for the dates. So the mother also divides the two dates that she originally intended to eat to give to her two children. That incident amazed me so I told the woman’s actions to the Prophet (PBUH). So the Prophet (PBUH) said: ‘Allah has established for him Paradise and delivered him from hell'”(R Muslim)
13. The punishment that ignores the parents
Have you ever go away even ignores your own parents? We as Muslims should not do that. Here is the following hadith mention that anyone who hates and ignores from his own parents then he is being a disbeliever.
“Do not neglect (hate and stay away from) your parents. Whoever neglects his parents then he is a disbeliever.” (Muslim)
14. The reward applies the virtues to the parents
For anyone, a Muslim whose parents died or one of them died and they (father or mother) have not performed Hajj or have debts. If it is capable, (the child) is obliged to pay off the debt or perform the pilgrimage for both of them. Allah Almighty will promise them to belong to the people who practice virtue.
“Whoever pays for both his parents or pay off his debts then he will be raised by God on the Day of Judgment from the group of people who practice virtue.”
(HR Ath-Thabrani and Ad-Daar Quthni).
15. The decision is in the hands of the father and mother
Parents, fathers, and mothers are the people to determine the future of their children. In a hadith mentions that every baby born is sacred. However, the decision to make their child a Muslim or not is their decision.
“Each baby is born in a holy state (sacred). His father and mother were the ones who made them Jews, Christians or Magi (worshipers and idols)”. (Bukhari)
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16. Love and give affection
Although a father is busy earning a living, the father must still give love to their children. Because the children still need love and care from his father. Below here is the following hadith.
“Love the children and love them. When promising something to them, please. The only thing they know is you who give them sustenance.” (Narrated by Ath-Thahawi).
17. Fair in giving gifts
As a parent, the father is required to give gifts such as; food, clothing or toys to their children, especially if they have daughters. Below here is the following hadith.
“Equalize your gift to your children. If I was going to give priority to one another I would give priority to giving to the women.” (HR Ath-Thabrani) [AdSense-C]
18. Celebrate the newborn baby with aqiqah
Any capable Muslim parent is required to perform aqiqah. Aqiqah is a celebration of newborns and usually in celebration is identical to slaughtering goats and it will be cooked to be distributed to the neighbors. If your baby is a girl, just one goat and if the male is two goats. The implementation of this celebration is usually done at 7 days after the child is born.
“Every child is liable with (ransom) aqiqah (one or two goats) slaughtered at the age of seven days and shaved head hair (partially or wholly) and named.” (HR An-Nasaa’i)
19. The position of a father figure
If your father was dead and in your family members you have the oldest brother, then he takes the position of your father as a priest. This is already explained in a hadith.
“The eldest brother (eldest) his position as a father.” (Al-Baihaqi and Ath-Thabrani)
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20. The attitude that father must have
A father should at least learn from a young man named Luqman Al-Hakim. Where his name is enshrined in the Holy Book of Quran. This young man always uses the call of love for his child. In addition, he also teaches his son to not associate Allah SWT and teach his children to always be humble. Below here Allah says in Quran.
“And (mention, O Muhammad), when Luqman said to his son while he was instructing him, ‘O my son, do not associate (anything) with Allah. Indeed, association (with him) is the great injustice.” ( Verse 31: 13)
Hopefully, the existence of 20 The importance of a father in Islam will provide lessons and insights on how important the role of father as a parent in a family. Honor your father as you honor your mother, without them, we will not be a successful and pious person.
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