Previously we have known read also Importance of A Father in Islam. For now, we will know exactly what rights are obtained by parents after their children have worked and married? Below here are the 20 rights of parents in Islam that you should know.
- Getting good treatment
A child, especially married, you should still treat parents well. As a child, we should not be rude to parents. Below here Allah says in the Quran. See also Rights of Parents in Islam After marriage
“Thy Lord hath decreed, that ye worship none save Him, and (that ye show) kindness to parents. If one of them or both of them attain old age with thee, say not “Fie” unto them nor repulse them, but speak unto them a gracious word.” (Verse 17:23)
2. The love of their children
Parents deserve the love of their children. The old man in his lifetime has raised us with all his struggles. For that, we must not forget those pliers have taken care of us. Below here Allah says in the holy book of Quran.
“And lower unto them the wing of submission through mercy, and say: My Lord! Have mercy on them both as they did care for me when I was little.” (Verse 17:24)
3. Give them happiness
Besides love, give them happiness. It’s their right to get it. Make happy parents do not have to be with the material, but enough with the treatment and good attitude that pleases them. Below here Allah says in the Quran.
“And serve Allah. Ascribe no thing as partner unto Him. (Show) kindness unto parents, and unto near kindred, and orphans, and the needy, and unto the neighbor who is of kin (unto you) and the neighbor who is not of kin, and the fellow-traveller and the wayfarer and (the slaves) whom your right hands possess. Lo! Allah loveth not such as are proud and boastful,” (Verse 4:36 )
4. Dutiful to parents
Dutiful to parents means we children (that has been married and apart from parents) must remain loving and obedient parental advice. In here the child must also be smart to sort out the advice of good parents and less good so as not to harm and not violate Islamic Shari’a. Below is one of the verses of the Quran that says this. Read more about Importance of A Mother in Islam
“Such have guidance from their Lord. Such are successful.” (Verse 31:5)
5. Visit the parent’s home
Visiting a parent’s home is mandatory for every child. The relationship must continue until the harmony family created. Below here, Allah says in the Quran.
“O mankind! Be careful of your duty to your Lord Who created you from a single soul and from it created its mate and from them, twain hath spread abroad a multitude of men and women. Be careful of your duty toward Allah in Whom ye claim (your rights) of one another, and toward the wombs (that bare you). Lo! Allah hath been a watcher over you.” (Verse 4:1)
6. Provide a living for parents if the child is able
Regeneration will continue if parents have been old. The children who have the right to work to help parents. It is obligatory for whoever married and work to provide for providing a living for their parents.This is one of their rights too. The below here is the following hadith.
From Jabir ibn Abdillah R.a., Rasulullah Saw. said, “Begin to spend the shadaqah with him for yourself, if there is any remaining, then for your family, if there is nothing left, then for your relatives, and if there is any remaining, then for those around you.” (Muslim). [AdSense-B]
7. Spending money on parents
If you can not provide a living for your parent, you can spend a little money on your parents. Like giving rice or other basic items for daily necessities and providing something useful like clothes or prayer tools. Below here Allah says in the Quran. Read more about How to Deal with Family Conflict in Islam
“They ask you as to what they should spend. Say, “Whatever you spend of good is (to be) for parents and relatives and orphans and the needy and the traveler. And whatever you do of good – indeed, Allah is Knowing of it.”(Verse 2: 215)
8. Respecting your parents
Encourage your husband or wife to respect your parents, especially the mothers. Honor them both your father and mother even though they are elderly. Below here is the following hadith.
From Abu Hurairah Radhi Allahu ‘anhu, the young man said,
“Someone came to the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and said,’ O Messenger of Allah, to whom should I serve first? ‘The Prophet Sallallahu’ alaihi wa Sallam replied, ‘Your mother!’ And the man returned asked ‘Then who else?’ The Prophet Sallallahu ‘alaihi wa Sallam replied,’ Your mother!
‘The man asked again,’ Then who else? ‘He replied,’ Your mother. ‘The man asked again,’ Then who else, ‘the Prophet Sallallahu’ alaihi wa Sallam replied,’ Then your father.'”(Bukhari and Muslim)
9. Try to remind parents of worship to Allah Almighty
Parents have the right to be reminded politely with the good about worship to Allah Almighty. As children, we are obliged to help our parents who lack in the science of worship. Below here Allah says in the Quran. See also Importance of Faith in Islam
“O ye who believe! Ward off from yourselves and your families a Fire whereof the fuel is men and stones, over which are set angels strong, severe, who resist not Allah in that which He commandeth them, but do that which they are commanded.” (Verse 66:6)
10. Parents need to be treated well
Further parental rights, parents are entitled to be treated in old age. Accompany them, talk to them and treat them well. Indeed the pleasure of Allah is under the pleasure of your parents, especially mothers.
“And We have enjoined upon man concerning his partners – His mother beareth him in weakness upon weakness, and his weaning is in two years – Give thanks unto Me and unto thy parents. Unto Me is the journeying.” (Verse 31:14)
11. Always dua for them after performing prayer
The most beautiful gift from a child to his parents is dua. If we can not make them happy with money, then just pray for them to have all their sins forgiven by Allah and always be given health. Here Allah says in the Quran.
“Our Lord! Forgive me and my parents and believers on the day when the account is cast.”(Verse 14:41)
12. Be patient with your parents
There are times when we as a child argue with their parents. However, we need to remember to keep it with patience sincere heart. Remember that parents also face us patiently from childhood, right? Below here is the following hadith.
“The practice most beloved by Allah Almighty is praying in due time, serving to both parents, and Jihad in the way of Allah Almighty.” (Bukhari and Muslim)
13. Giving news to parents
Parents are also entitled to get word from their children, especially if children live far apart from parents. As a child, we must take time to give news to parents. What about the parents who died? We can recite a dua for them so that this happy news can be accepted by them, as in this following hadith.
“What a man will be lifted up in heaven, he says: Where is this from? Then it is said to him that this is due to your righteous son’s sincerity. “ (Ibn Majah)
14. Fulfill a parent’s promise
Anyone who knows his or her parents has a promise or a debt, as our child must help solve it. Below here Allah says in the Quran.
“……………..; and keep the covenant. Lo! of the covenant it will be asked.” (Verse 17:34)
15. Asking for permission from parents
This following hadith below tells about a child who asks his parents for permission to fight for jihad. Rasulullah SAW here shows that filial to the parents is greater than jihad. Read more about Importance of Family Life in Islam
Abdullah ibn Umar reported that a person presented himself before the Holy Prophet (PBUH) in order to have his permission to participate in Jihad. He asked him, “Are your parents alive?” He submitted, “Yes, they are.” Prophet said, “Then you carry out Jihad (by serving them both).” (Bukhari and Muslim).
16. Speak gently with them
Whosoever behaves gentle towards his parents, then he is a man who has noble akhlaq. A devoted child who speaks gentle words to his parents Allah Almighty will include him in Heaven.Below here is the following hadith.
From Abu Shuraih, he said to the Prophet Sallallahu ‘alaihi wa Sallam, “O Messenger of Allah, show me a practice that can enter me into heaven.” He said, “Among the causes of Allah’s forgiveness is spreading greetings and speaking good words.” (HR Thobroni in Mu’jam Al Kabir)
17. Treat the parents well even though they are in another religion
What will we do if our parents are in another religion? Our Islamic greetings must keep good deeds and respect them even if they are not Muslim. However, if parents want us to enter into their religion, then you must reject it.
“Asma bint Abu Bakr (RA) relates that her mother had come to Madinah, from Makkah, to meet her Her mother followed the Pagan customs and beliefs, so Asma (RA) enquired from the Prophet Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam as how she was to treat her what she should have nothing to do with her, as she was a Pagan, or treat her as a daughter should, and show her kindness to her The Prophet told her to be kind and considerate and behave towards her as a mothers due, from a daughter. “ (Bukhari) [AdSense-C]
18. Pray for the salvation of parent who dies
For the parent who dies, they also get the right to get prayers from their children. Only prayer and good deeds are able to save them from the torture of the grave. Below here is the following hadith.
And Abu Usayd al-Badri reports that he was sitting with the Holy Prophet (PBUH) when an Ansari came and asked, “O, Prophet, does some right of my parents remain on me even after they have died?” Prophet (PBUH) said, Yes. Praying and seeking forgiveness for them, fulfilling the promises they have made to someone, being kind and respectful to their friends and showing mercy and generosity to their blood relatives. These are the rights of your parents still due to you, even after them.” (Bukhari)
19. Disobedient to parents
What happens if a child is disobedient to a parent? A child who dares to stand up against a parent is one of those who child enters into a great sin. Below here is the following hadith.
The Prophet was asked about the great sins. Prophet (PBUH) said, They are; to join others in worship with Allah, To be undutiful to one’s parents, To kill a person (which Allah has forbidden to kill), And to give a false witness. “(Bukhari)
20. Criticize the parents
Is there a child who has the criticize his own parents? The Prophet Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam has said in his hadith.
“To abuse one’s parents is also a major sin.” He was asked, “Can anyone abuse his parents?” “Yes,” the Prophet replied, “If a person abused someone else’s parents and that person, in retaliation, abused his parents, – then it is as though he himself had abused his parents.” (Bukhari and Muslim)
The point is the duty and rights of parents to the child and vice versa is the same. They have to share each other and pray for the best. Hopefully, the 20 rights of parents in Islam can add knowledge of how to care for parents well in Islam.